by Guest Contributor M.Dot, originally published at Model Minority
I was riding through Ohio the other day on a road trip to Michigan.
Filthy was looking for NPR but we settled on the Michael Baisden show. I was intrigued because the show was about whether a woman, a wife, has the right to “Go on Strike” and hold out on sex from her husband. Seeing as my research interests are women and sexuality, I was intrigued about the possibilities that the discussion presented.
So, I am listening to the show, and at 6:40 Baisden says to a caller, “If you were my woman, not feeling like it is not a reason to give me some.” Word?
At 7:53 Baisden says, “If you are not in the mood, just lay there and take it.” [Laughter].
The woman caller says that if she doesn’t feel like it she isn’t doing it.
Then Baisden’s co-host says, “Your feelings are obselete, your feelings don’t matter for 30 minutes.” [Laughter].
I understand that withholding sex from your partner is a very serious matter and typically indicative of other issues going on in the relationship.
However, “You should just lay there and take it” is a very serious line of thought and action for Black women for many reasons Continue reading