Quoted: Janet Mock on DJ Mister Cee and the shaming of men who love trans women

From “How Society Shames Men Attracted to Trans Women and How This Affects Our Lives”

This anti-trans woman ideology is harmful, misogynistic and pervasive and travels way beyond the comments section of gossip blogs, and as Sylvia Rivera once said, “I will no longer put up with this shit.”

I am a trans woman. My sisters are trans women. We are not secrets. We are not shameful. We are worthy of respect, desire, and love. As there are many kinds of women, there are many kinds of men, and many men desire many kinds of women, trans women are amongst these women. And let’s be clear: Trans women are women.

The shame that society attaches to these men, specifically attacking their sexuality and shaming their attraction, directly affects trans women. It affects the way we look at ourselves. It amplifies our body-image issues, our self-esteem, our sense of possibility, of daring for greatness, of aiming for something or somewhere greater. If a young trans woman believes that the only way she can share intimate space with a man is through secret hookups, bootycalls or transaction, she will be led to engage in risky sexual behaviors that make her more vulnerable to criminalization, disease and violence; she will be led to coddle a man who takes out his frustrations about his sexuality on her with his fists; she will be led to question whether she’s worthy enough to protect herself with a condom when a man tells her he loves her; she will be led to believe that she is not worthy of being seen, that being seen heightens her risk of violence therefore she must hide who she is at all costs in order to survive.

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New York DJ, Mister Cee, resigned last week amid soliciting allegations. The DJ, whose real name is Calvin LeBrun, has been arrested twice for soliciting sex from transgender sex workers.
New York DJ, Mister Cee, resigned last week amid soliciting allegations. The DJ, whose real name is Calvin LeBrun, has been arrested twice for soliciting sex from transgender sex workers.

 

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  • Daniel Herd

    HuffPostLive had a great segment on this with Janet Mock and Laverne Cox. http://live.huffingtonpost.com/r/segment/what-dj-mister-cees-scandal-means-for-hip-hop/5230e99778c90a121000039d

  • Daniel Herd

    HuffPostLive had a great segment on this with Janet Mock and Laverne Cox. http://live.huffingtonpost.com/r/segment/what-dj-mister-cees-scandal-means-for-hip-hop/5230e99778c90a121000039d

  • Rachel Kantstopdaphunk

    TY. This needed to be said, repeatedly and loudly. Much love to Janet Mock for breaking it down.

  • LeilaM12

    This is a great article. In the more politically left-leaning spheres of the internet, the debate was more about the fact that one of the arrests were for a male undercover cop (not in any way trans or pretending to be trans) and that he then on air said that while the cop had been a man, he was definitely not gay, but still straight. Also correction to the picture caption: A second time he was arrested for soliciting from a female undercover cop. In the last arrest, he tried to solicit not a transwoman, but a man in drag who self-identifies as male. The man in question is not actually a sex worker, so that’s how he got himself into trouble this time.