What Race Is Your Dog?
Sometimes people start out wanting to say “I saw this black man” then something clicks in them that makes this feel awkward–perhaps looking at my brown skin. They pause, the letter “b” hangs on their lips, as they search their minds like a Jeopardy category titled Ways to describe black people that start with b. If they are afraid of black people they might say, “I saw this big black man.” Yikes. If they are trying to show how liberal and accepting they are of black people then it comes out, “I saw this beautiful black man.” Smile. Whew, that was a close one.
Imagine someone saying this, “I saw the most–um, uh–big–I mean, beautiful black dog the other day.” This clearly indicates that they are not a fan of black dogs and that this one must be an exception. It’s kind of like when people say, “I met the nicest Pit Bull.”
Yet, if you ask someone why they stumbled to find a positive adjective to place in front of a racial identifier, get ready for a fight. Their reaction will start with defensive outrage to cover embarrassment–and might even end with their accusing you of being racist yourself. Try it sometime, and see what happens.
Why is it that we describe pet colors and breeds so easily but when we talk about people we stumble, stutter, and prepare for battle? Is it because dogs never fought for their rights in our society? Is it because cats never asked to be called one thing or another? Is it because we choose their descriptors for them, and they have no say at all in the labels we assign them?
If you apply a biological approach, the color of pets and the race of people is pretty much determined by the same mechanism: genetics. So what makes race such a drastically different and difficult conversation among humans? We have to admit, finally, that race is not just a matter of genetics, it includes our historical interactions.
Facing a person’s race means facing the history you have with them and their group, not just facing a difference in “skin color” as people often try to oversimplify it. We carry our collective history with us everywhere, and the first reminder of that is our skin. It is our discomfort with and denial of our history that tensions around race invariably arises.
After the two dog lovers behind me discussed their dogs, they finally introduced themselves. As it turned out, they both had the same last name. No kidding, they had the same last name. The woman was delighted by this discovery. She said that she is from Spain and asked if his family was Spanish too.
“Yeah!” he said. “My mom’s from Puerto Rico, and my dad’s Cuban.”
Another awkward silence.
damali ayo is the author of Obamistan! Land without Racism: Your Guide to the New America (Lawrence Hill Books) and teaches “You Can Fix Racism” a ten-point program to improve and ease race relations, to schools and communities around the country.
Page 2 of 2 | Previous page
Pingback: Othering Language-What Race Is Your Dog? « Adventures of a Girl Janitor