The Bachelor/Bachelorette’s White Elephant

By Deputy Editor Thea Lim

Over at Femonomics Coca Colo asks why everyone on the Bachelor and the Bachelorette is white:

The Bachelor and The Bachelorette are two of the whitest shows on television.  Not only is the star always white, but so is the host, and so, by nature of our society’s continued discomfort with interracial dating, are almost all of the suitors.  The all-white star phenomenon then becomes a self-perpetuating cycle, because the newest star is usually picked from one of the nearly rejected contestants, who are all themselves white…

Now, simply choosing a black (or hispanic, or middle eastern, or asian, or south asian, or mixed race) star would certainly not remedy the problem.  In fact, it would likely only highlight it, since naturally ABC would never reverse the formula and stock this cast with all people the same race as the star (that would make The Bachelor a “niche” show, they would say).  Nonetheless, at least we would have taken a small, token step toward inclusiveness.  I know The Bachelor is ridiculous, that the formula of trying to find love in a couple months with 25 strangers is nonsense, and that we have bigger representation problems than television.  You can tell me all that, and yet it still enrages me how white this show is.  So ABC, you’re on notice.

I get Femonomics’ exasperation on this – as a race and pop culture blog, one of Racialicious’ biggest problems actually is poor representations of people of colour on TV.  But the Bachelor/Bachelorette’s myriad problems aside (like the heteronormativity and the bizarre power dynamics), the consequences of a bachelorette/bachelor of colour could equally be heartily positive, or completely negative.  Indulge me in some baseless what-if-ing – colouring the Bachelorette/Bachelor: what could go right (or wrong)?

Let’s imagine a bachelorette/bachelor of colour.  It would be just lovely to see people of colour pursuing love in their own way and taking charge of their sexuality, especially when you consider that people of colour are usually portrayed as asexual (Eddie Murphy in Beverly Hills Cop 1), comically hypersexual (Donna on Parks and Recreation or Long Duk Dong in Sixteen Candles), sexual vessels for someone else’s fantasy (any number of East Asian women playing bit roles in white vehicles), or the perpetual wingperson (any number of black women playing sassy black best friend roles in white vehicles).  It could be our (sexy) time to shine!

Then again, there are just as many things that could go wrong. Imagine if we had, say,  a Korean bachelorette.  I doubt we would make it through a single episode without references to said bachelorette’s exotic beauty and delicate hands.  Or what if we had a bachelor of colour pick a white suitor? We’d have another disastrous portrayal of white beauty being selected over nonwhite.

Before you accuse me of hating on interracial lovers and their offspring, let me just say that it is not individual interracial white/nonwhite couples that trouble me.   It is rather the constant movie/televisual representations of mixed race couples and their corollary that tires me out: which is that white folks are always portrayed as more loveable and desireable than people of colour.  Whatever the actual context of a mixed race white/POC bachelor(/ette) pairing, the mere optics would simply reinforce a demoralising message that people of colour are sick of hearing: we are never as dateable as white folks, or if we are dateable it is in a weird-ass creepy fetish way that we’d rather go without, thankyou.

Ok, so let’s imagine there are (more) suitors of colour on the casts of the Bachelor/Bachelorette.  That would be nice for representation figures alone, and breaking up the wall of whiteness Femonomics identified.  It would do wonders for the dating self-esteem of men and women of colour all over North America (even though vying for white folks’ approval ain’t that healthy). Yet what are the odds we’d just see our brethren getting rejected? I don’t know, but they might not be good, and that could be mighty demoralising.

More positives and negatives accompany a scenario whereby a white bachelor(ette) chooses a suitor of colour.  It could be portrayed as just your run-of-the-mill miracle of love thing.  Which would be good.  But it could also turn into something nauseatingly post-racial, with the couple getting back-pats for being so brave and courageous; missing the point that you should date someone just because you like them, and not out of some twisted desire to end racism by humping someone of another race.

A potential positive that has few potential negatives – at least from an anti-racist point of view? The casting changing on the Bachelorette/Bachelor to the point that we get to see a POC/POC couple on the Bachelor/Bachelorette.   But it may be a while before we see something like that.

What do you think? Would you like to see a bachelor/bachelorette of colour no matter who they choose? Would you be happy to see more suitors of colour, or does the risk of seeing yet another man/woman of colour get rejected on international television outweigh the positives of modifying the love demographic?

Or should we just continue whittling sailboats out of twigs and shooting marbles until there’s better POC programming on TV?

Thanks to Corinne for sending us the link!

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Comments

  1. anon wrote:

    More to Love meets Flavor of Love. So no. Not to mention if a white suitor was picked and people picked apart how once again a white person is painted as desirable and how producers obviously influence who is picked it would get spun as Bitter Minority Syndrome. And on top of that they would be sure to focus heavily on race and make it seem “exotic” as possible.

  2. Ladyrindy wrote:

    I would really love a bachelor/bachelorette of color! It would be a nice departure from all the sideshow circuses on VH1- Flavor of love, Rock of love, Tila Tequila, I love New York, etc. It would also be more interesting to watch than the bland people they do get as the objects of desire. IF done in the right way, i.e. steering clear of stereotypical portrayals of race, it could be a real eye opener for everyone.

  3. miga wrote:

    I’m honestly confused at my feelings about the whole interracial love on TV thing. Here’s my thinking:
    1.)On the one hand, there actually AREN’T very many mixed relationships on TV at all, compared to the number of monoracial ones. The number is growing, but it’s just waay too common to see the (token) POC characters getting paired up with their respective partners. Either that or they’re related. As a person who rarely sees people like herself on TV, I end up rooting for the mixed relationships or the mixed kids just out of solidarity.
    2.)However, those that are portrayed are usually POC/White. Which I have no problem with, but given Hollywood’s poor track record with dealing with race, interracial unions are either dealt with “postracially” (meaning they ignore the issue) or in a racist fashion (turning the POC into a fetish, and/or otherwise objectifying him/her). This is the kind of ish that possibly(?) does more harm than good so maybe it would be best to avoid putting it on TV until it can be dealt with more appropriately.
    3.)On the other-other hand, I posted in the Precious section about NOT sweeping these types of (stereotypical, but they actually HAPPEN) moments under the rug, but instead balancing them out with positive ones of our own (eg: human beings actually respecting and loving each other: monoracial, mixedPOC/POC or mixedPOC/W). I still stand by that, and believe that avoiding portraying(or getting involved in) a relationship just because it’s mixed with whatever is doing harm to everyone.
    4.)But really, should we expect anything anti-racist (or even realistic) to come from a show like the Bachelor/Bachelorette where objectification, forced emotions, and power imbalance is inherent in its premise?

    I think we should just let the bachelor(ette) stay white and bad. In other words, abandon ship cuz’ even if you can steer it away from the rocks, it’s still going to sink because it’s just poorly built.

  4. Just A Thought wrote:

    Hmmm, honestly, I’d like them to stock the cast with more suitors of colors, because I think that, if done properly, would offer the lesser of two evils. If, perhaps, 15-18 of the original suitors were POCs (and while I loathe to use this terminology, but were also visually “read” as POC), then it would be a lot harder for them to categorically dismiss them in the first episode. Perhaps one would make it to the last couple of shows. However, I think there would be severe backlash from viewers who can’t fathom POC as being normal humans looking for love in the same way. Given the effed up dynamics of the show, and having a white bachelor/ette centered in choosing (and thereby validating) a POC suitor, it’s not a perfect solution.

    I feel as if a POC bachelor/ette were to be cast, then there would only be one or two POC suitors, and usually only one suitor of the same ethnic/racial/cultural background. In all likelihood, it would result in another visual representation of whiteness being the most dateable and desirable, which is not good for anybody.

  5. Eva wrote:

    I don’t know. I think the show is garbage anyway, so I wouldn’t want any POC’s to be associated with this crap show. My issue with dating shows is here’s this one guy who had to choose which woman he wants and all of them are just vying to be “the one.” Ugh, I thought the 1950’s were over.

    Then again I watch mainly HGTV.

  6. steps wrote:

    Absolutely not. A loud, resounding no.

    I am so against it because it would be woefully mishandled and played for laughs or awkwardness. There isn’t enough “racial sensitivity” over at ABC/Next Entertainment to handle PoC properly, let alone a PoC Bachelor/ette properly.

    I saw the premiere ep of this season’s Bachelor because nothing else was on and hell, I’ll admit it: I was curious and wanted to see it. There was a Cambodian woman in the initial 25 who spoke Cambodian to the Bachelor twice and both times, said some pretty, er, interesting things to him–things along the line of “You can land your plane on my landing strip anytime” or something like that. I don’t know if she did it herself to “stand out” or the producers told her to do it, but she emphasized her Cambodian-ness in a way that personally made me a little uncomfortable to watch…and she was cut the first night.

    And while I don’t think we’d be whittling sailboats and shooting marbles (heh), The Bachelor/ette isn’t the show for racial diversity; I personally think that scripted TV needs to lead the way…and is already making some demonstrable, albeit rocky, strides.

  7. lunanoire wrote:

    THIS is why I am excited & concerned to see how MTV handles the newest reality show that it is currently casting for based on Korean-Americans in Koreatown, Los Angeles. Some love stories are inevitable. I bet they somehow will find white people to cast. And I wonder what “types” they are casting for.

  8. Deaf Indian Muslim Anarchist wrote:

    I’m tired of how the Bachelor/Bacheloerette are considered “classy” over VH-1 dating reality competition shows filled with POC, that portray women of color as trashy and desperate, while they portray white women as nice All-American females who want to find a nice, sweet husband and settle down and have children.

    It really pisses me off.

  9. Kenny wrote:

    No way a man of color will be on tv each week in a suit and tie on network tv with women vying for him, even in 2010.If done properly I guess it would be good to be included.I can’t see it, especially with the Bachelor and to a lesser degree the Bacherlorette.Even the Old Spice commercial with the Black guy surprised me though.

  10. Queen B wrote:

    While the Bachelor/Bachelorette is very problematic in the sense that you have grown women competing for the affection of one man- making fools of themseleves in the process and the losing women is subsequently chosen as the next Bachelorette, the ABC show is generally by reality tv show standards “classier” than “For the Love of Ray J” etc.

    For example, the Bachelor may take his date on a helipcopter ride followed by a romantic dinner date on the beach while Ray J will take his date to a strip club because she is/was a stripper.

    The solution is not to make everyone on the Bachelor non-white but to have a rich mix of various ethinicities or cultures. For example, half the group could be white and the other half could be people of color.

  11. Stephanie wrote:

    Just a couple of thoughts:

    1. The producers of the shows aren’t particularly concerned about what the viewers think, as long as they keep watching. More viewers means better ratings, which means more advertising revenue for the network. These things are analysed to within an inch of their lives, and the network and producers have obviously decided that a POC bachelor(ette) would not be as attractive to whatever audience their advertisers are targetting. So that’s one hurdle to getting more POCs on the shows.

    2. Going from the minor storm over Reggie Bush getting the cover on the Essence “love” issue, I don’t know if a POC audience themselves would actually react positively. There could be a backlash if the bachelor(ette) expressed a preference for a different ethnicity from their own. Again, if this would damage ratings, I don’t think the producers would do it.

    3. Having given the above two points, I do think more POCs could work on the shows, just not on US television. Were The Bachelor(ette) to be transplanted to UK television, for instance, I think there would be far more scope for a greater number of POCs amongst the suitors, and also as the “star.”

    Just don’t give it to Endemol. They’d deliberately bugger it up in the hope of starting a tabloid frenzy.

  12. Val wrote:

    Occasionally there is one Black woman on the Bachelor shows. I really don’t know why she’s there since the chances of her being “picked” are almost zero. I suppose finding a Black woman willing to be on the show is ABC’s way of adding diversity?

    And the character Donna on Parks and Rec makes me cringe. It always amazes me that they can find Black woman actors to play those kind of parts.

  13. Slim wrote:

    @DIMA and Miga,

    Eye to eye!

    For me, dating shows like FTLORJ or FoL or RoL or ILNY or TB are all pathetic because all of the suitors are, like Fresh at C&D would say, “Wh**es for propaganda.” It’s not even normal for a person with an iota of self-esteem to play themselves, and go through all the rigors of dating, on television.

    I see right through ABC. The women on the TB are just as bad as any of Flava Flav’s or Ray J’s suitors, they just choose to represent themselves differently.

    A bird is a bird.

    I don’t want to see POCs on this show because it stinks and they get roasted on The Soup anyway lol.

  14. Montclair Mommy wrote:

    These shows are so trite. Seriously, I can barely watch them without puking. Another thing I noticed when I had roomies that watched them…the Bachelor had pretty much free reign over the ladies, who fawned all over him. The Bachelorette…well she still ended up playing defense somehow. She still felt like she was trying to attract them i.e. got emotional about her choices, put up with their nonsense. I have to admit I’ve only seen a combined total of maybe 2 hours of Bach footage…but that was enough for me!

    @miga: agreed. I don’t think they can do this right, so they shouldn’t do it. I’d love to see a POC/white or POC/POC couple that isn’t stereotypical on TV…but I bet it won’t happen. Like anon I see “More to Love” mixed with a little “Flavor of Love ” and a sprinkle of “Tila Tequila.” Not a very pallitable combo.

  15. distance88 wrote:

    I’m more interested in bringing about the demise of ‘reality tv’ (and in particular, these f***ing meat-market dating shows) as opposed to increasing PoC representation as a questionable means of lending it some semblance of credibility.

    What ever happened to (good) storytelling?

  16. Elton wrote:

    They should have an Asian Bachelor. The season would be cut short and no more Bachelor/ette shows would ever be made.

    Precedent: Every show starring Asian Americans, ever.

  17. Darth Paul wrote:

    Do we POCs really want/need a show that cheapens both love and marriage to such a commericalized and ludicrous level? How about queer POCs…should we even regard such a heterosexist show that treats a social right many of us (and our allies) are fighting quite hard to attain so flippantly?

    I’m actually quite content this is the (straight) WPs gig…I certainly want no part in it.

  18. pinksghetti wrote:

    #12 at Val, that is what I was thinking when I saw this last Bachelor show (tuned in for a minute just cause I was curious). If I’m not mistaken there wasn’t a BW on the show which was good and bad. On one hand it was good because of the reason you gave but on the other hand it my mind it made me think that the guy who was doing the choosing didn’t even want a BW on there to compete (that is just my view not neccessarily what he was thinking).

  19. Bones wrote:

    There was one black girl on The Bachelor: London Calling, Mashanda if I recall. And to be honest a lot of the white women on the show were mean to her and linger on racism. I didn’t watch the show but my best friend who does talked about it. The white women were condescending and eventually she had to leave due to a fight.

    The issue with black women being on the show is that they will not be respected by the white females who have this sense of entitlement. They sincerely believe that they are the creme de la creme so of course she has a right to marry this white man and not her black counterpart. I mean I sense that with the Cambodian woman on this season who made that “quirky” remark about Jake landing on her runway strip and most of the other women were saying “omg did she really say that, who says that” tripe. A bit condescending considering all them were just as cheesy. With black men I think the same sentiment may be expressed (though not explicitly) by white males.

    Also my issue with the bachelor (having watched only this season) is that the women are not financially established like Jake. Some tend to be nannies, waitresses and the sort. Would a black nanny be highly considered or even equally considered like a white nanny? Probably not.

    So I’m for POC going on the bachelor

  20. Brenda S. wrote:

    I rarely have time to watch these types of reality shows and when I do, I almost always watch something else. However, from what I’ve seen on the bachelor, it does tend to be mostly monoracial couples. I think more suitors of color would be more interesting as there are some who are probably just as good, or even better, that some of the white suitors. It would be more interesting and more in touch with reality. One thing I can say about IR relationships being “taboo” is this: if you don’t see it as often, it will remain “taboo”.

  21. George wrote:

    Oh, where is the Dating Game or Change of Heart Show when you need them? That is where you look for solutions. We will have one segment for white participants and the other for non-white participants. That way racist whites dont have to worry about blood mixing and maintain their blood purity and the minorities wont feel that they are left out! Simple solution…and like the new Melrose Place show, it can go back and forth between the white and non-white components.

  22. Chris wrote:

    It seems like it might be more complicated than this. I wonder if there have, in fact, been POC on the bachelor/bachelorette shows, but since they’re not “read” as POC, nor are they encouraged/allowed to talk about their race/ethncity, we don’t know it. For example, I would guess that Gia on the last episode might have identified as a POC and it was never address or discussed. hmm…interesting question.

  23. HalleBerry wrote:

    I agree why is this even an issue?! And seriously who gives a CRAP what Hollyweird or white people who make these shows think that black and other people of color are ‘undateable’?! Obviously that AIN’T the case otherwise none of us would be here so we know it’s bullshit and don’t need white people in the media to validate us. I understand you all don’t want to be seen as stereotypes,I don’t like them either,but why does it always have to be a more ‘positive’ balance? No offense to the white readers but I really don’t give a crap what white people in sicko cesspool Hollowwood think about us,our sex lives,or our sexuality. Because they DON’T get it don’t want to and never will so they can HAVE ‘The Bachelor’ not that I’m attacking the show I just don’t need to see myself represented in eveything. Especially a suppsoed ‘dating’ tv show others find misogynistic and ridiculous.

  24. refresh_daemon wrote:

    My guess is with shows like Bachelor/Bachelorette, whatever representation you get will be, at it subtlest, hamfisted. So it’s bound to return to cliché and stereotypes in the commentary and editing.

    However, more representation of real people of color, no matter how awful the show is still better. If there were two suitors of color of the same race, then the show would have to differentiate between the two without resorting to an overarching racial stereotype.

    I think it’s of critical importance to increase PoC representation in media–heck, even saturate it, if possible as to create increased exposure to the different stories we all have as individuals of a specific race. The more familiar we are to others, even if some of us are represented as hot messes (like on reality shows), the more diverse any given race will appear in the eye of the media market, which will, I think, go a long way
    towards breaking down stereotypes.

    And I don’t think we should fall into the trap of only showing images of PoC that are awesome representatives of the race(s). If representative justice is what we want, we need to show that we are just as fallible as all the crazy white folk that show up on these reality shows as well. It can’t be the only image on our screens, but we definitely can’t hide it either. Rather than aim to censor these images, we should be striving to improve the representation of alternatives to those images to increase the diversity within any race of PoC in the minds of the viewers.

    I’m hoping the 2010 census results show a gain in PoC populations as it would drive producers and financiers of media to want to court more PoC markets (as they become increasingly mainstream via population count alone) and that should, hopefully, drive an increase in PoC representation, even on trashy reality dating shows.

  25. Bones wrote:

    * make that Not for POC going on the bachelor.

  26. Ike wrote:

    Since everyone knows that reality shows don’t reflect “reality”, if they cared about portraying POC/POC relationships, they could just script the whole thing by showing an existing couple with a few random others to throw the audience off.

  27. octogalore wrote:

    My first instince was “great idea!” but after reading the OP and comments, it could certainly be fraught with problems. I wonder, though, if those problems ever get worked out if nobody goes there. I don’t know if by waiting, the first iteration is ever going to be problem-free.

    I wonder if having a bachelorette who is a WOC solves some of the issues. Male WOC choosing white women seems to be more of a problematic meme.

    I agree with Miga at #3 that of the POC relationships shown on TV or film, there are few that involve interracial relationships and those that exist are short-lived (eg, on Friends) or taken out of the book version (eg, Pelican Brief), with a few exceptions.

    There would probably be a number of FAIL events, but if the first attempt is made, does that increase the chances of getting it (closer to) right down the line? Hopefully, there would be feedback and focus groups who are multi-racial to provide critique.

    I do agree the Bachelor(ette) franchise isn’t exactly high art, but I don’t see that as a reason to say POC are better off not involved. After all, stars on these shows, even if only rocking their 15 minutes, have been able to leverage those 15 into more, and into dollars. POC should have these opportunities, as well.

  28. Miles Ellison wrote:

    The author is upset that there aren’t more non-white people on The Bachelor? Really?

  29. Ari wrote:

    I’ve often wondered the exact same thing; where’s the color on the Bachelor/ette?

    I would want to see more color but I appreciate you showing the good and the bad. I think we would need an equal number of contests of color and not just one token (fill in the blank).

    Excellent post!

  30. Little Bee wrote:

    Would introducing POC into the pool of contestants/bachelors negate the misogyny and heteronormativity of the show? I think not.

    Also, I can’t see this show being about anything else than upholding whiteness as desireable. Even if a POC was a bachelor/ette, what would the contestant pool look like? What would it signify if a white contestant was chosen over another POC for the final rose? As viewers, particularly those of us who are women of colour, would we able to distinguish whether choices were made because of genuine interracial love or internalized racism?

    I respect that people would like to see more interracial couples on television and in the media to break down barriers and thwart misconceptions, but honestly, the Bachelor/ette is not the right avenue for it. The show degrades women by reducing them to pieces of meat; hails heterosexuality as the only choice; and makes a mockery out of marriage while the LGBTQ community and their allies fight for the right to even be wed. They may be exclusive (essentially whites only and a token minority or two for a post-racial, exotic vibe), but this ain’t a club I want to join, so the joke’s on them.

  31. dersk wrote:

    I’d rather poke my eyes out with a dull stick than see a PoC contestant on one of those shows.

    Of course, I’d rather poke my eyes out with a dull stick than watch one of those shows in the first place.

  32. bdsista wrote:

    I say no, ABC still has Martin Bashir on the payroll after MJ’s death and I am still pissed about that. But I just know the white privilege will seep out and if its a BM he would likely be encouraged to not pic a POC and potentially vice versa. There is a really strong need to show particularly Black couples in loving relationships. The last one I saw was in the movie Tap with Gregory Hines and maybe the Unit when people weren’t getting kidnapped and killed. Ok, we can throw in the Lethal Weapon films with Danny Glover too, but he was the sidekick, so umm maybe no. I too don’t trust the execs to show tenderness, and caring between two POCs. Its much better for ratings to show us in unrealistic dysfuntionality like on the VH1 shows, which make me retch.

  33. Kat wrote:

    Sorry for being late on this one.

    I’m with miga on this one:
    “1.) On the one hand, there actually AREN’T very many mixed relationships on TV at all, compared to the number of monoracial ones. The number is growing, but it’s just waay too common to see the (token) POC characters getting paired up with their respective partners.”

    In most movie makers’ minds POC seem to be related to unicorns on the Arche Noah: They come in pairs… or not at all.

  34. Kat wrote:

    Regarding the fetish/internalized racism part:
    Has anyone ever tried actively to work against that? If so: How?

  35. jk wrote:

    I don’t think ANYONE should be on the bachelor or bachelorette. Nor should anyone watch it. That show is a huge insult to human intelligence. Everytime I accidentally watch a bit of that show (out of morbid curiosity of course) I regret it profusely.

    And while I hate it when the media is entirely white, I think it is MUCH better than minorities aren’t cast in the show. When the women and men of the show act like complete morons, they’re labeled as simply “morons” because they’re white. If POC act like complete morons on the show, it’ll be because they’re POC. Can you imagine that?

    We should thank our lucky stars that the show is basically entirely white.

  36. Celeste wrote:

    Yeah, they can sooooo leave my demographic out of this. Thanks but no thanks.