Lil Wayne, Sexual Violation, and The “Acceptable” Black Male Discourse

Unpacking the Intra- and Interracial Narratives

Part of the taboo is it seems that the only violation folks, both inside and outside some Black communities, want to give an ear to from and about Black men is how they are “racially violated,” how racism denies them their humanity, which is closely tied to their sense of “rightful” manhood: getting a job, providing for themselves and their families, protecting their women and children–and more negatively, their male privileges, like feeling entitled to participate in this society’s sexism and misogyny. Several books written by Black men riff this theme, from Richard Wright’s Native Son, Eldridge Cleaver’s Soul on Ice, James Baldwin’s Nobody Knows My Name and Notes of a Native Son, and Nathan McCall’s Make Me Wanna Holler. Then, of course, such riffs exist where there are, well, riffs: before folks start hollering about Teh Evils of Hip-Hop, also consider James Brown’s “It’s a Man’s Man’s Man’s World,” Marvin Gaye’s “Make Me Wanna Holla,” and Jimi Hendrix’s “Hey Joe.”

When the media does address or show male sexual violence, it shows it in prisons (Shawshank Redemption, American History X—and note the survivor is the white male protagonist) The only account of a Black man experiencing sexual attacks in recent memory still fits into the narrative of Violence in the Legal Complex–namely the heinous physical and sexual assault on Haitian-American Abner Louima by mostly white NYPD officers. And even at that—Louima’s violation is rarely referred to as “rape.” Newspapers wrote he was “tortured” or “brutally assaulted.” If they refer to the sexual violence at all, the press said Louima was “sodomized” (with all of the homophobia stinking up that word) or describe in graphic detail what happened.  Even when I hear Black pundits and other folks talk about the white police brutality suffered by Black men, the names roll off the tongue: Sean Bell, Oscar Grant, Amadou Diallo, and Louima. The fact that cops shot Bell, Grant, and Diallo is emphasized. Louima surviving cops raping him is rarely—if ever–articulated as such.

As Cara mentioned, part of this may stem from the fact that Black men, like Black women, are viewed as “unrapeable” due to society viewing us as “hypersexual.”  Another thought-strain, coming from within some Black communities, is that we cannot talk about sexual violence least we are doing our part of maintaining the Hypersexual (and Violent) Negro stereotype. So, we are to keep quiet in order to uplift The Race. However, some Black women are opening up the conversations around our own sexual violations by Black men and women.

And publicly—and even reluctantly and perhaps unwittingly–Lil Wayne has done the same for Black men and, hopefully, for other men of color. And if we’re calling ourselves feminists and womanists, we should be the first to offer this empowering language to—and give and hold that space for—Black men, so they can name what actually happened to them and not have it become the fodder of stereotypes and fantasies that misogynist late-night talk show hosts and guests can exploit.

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