On Proposition 8

A Racialicious Roundtable

Alternet recently reprinted an article by James Kim (written for The Nation), reporting:

If exit polls are to be believed, some 70 percent of African-Americans voted Yes on 8, as did 53 percent of Latinos and 49 percent of Asians; each of these demographics went heavily for Obama; blacks by a 94-to-6 margin. Los Angeles County, heavily minority, went 50-50 on Prop 8. These results have shocked gay activists, who knew from earlier polls, for example, that black voters favored Prop 8, but they were seeing much smaller margins, closer to 50 percent.

The easy, dangerous explanation for this gap, and one already tossed around by some white gay liberals in the bitter aftermath, is that people of color are not so secretly homophobic. But a more complicated reckoning — one that takes into account both the organizing successes of the Christian right and the failures of the gay movement — will have to take place if activists want a different result next time. First, there’s the matter of the Yes on 8 coalition’s staggering disinformation campaign. Ad after ad told voters that without Prop 8, their churches would be forced to perform same-sex unions and stripped of their tax-exempt status; that schools would teach their children to practice homosexuality, and, perhaps most effective, that a smiling Barack Obama had said, “I’m not in favor of gay marriage.” This last bit went out in a flier by the Yes on 8 campaign targeting black households.

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For years, the California Christian right apparatus, long hampered by their nativism and racism, had been unable to make inroads into the state’s brown, yellow and black populations — a demographic goldmine in a state that is more than 50 percent minority and growing. Prop 8 may prove their gold rush. From the very beginning they bought up ad space in Chinese, black, Spanish and Korean media; they hosted massive rallies for ethnic Christians. The Sunday before election day, I went to Los Angeles City Hall for the most celebratory, most diverse rally I have ever attended; it was organized by Yes on 8 Chinese advocates.

So, it would appear that the passing of Prop 8 had a bit more to do with targeted outreach and good messaging than the inherent homophobia of nonwhite communities. Now, I am not saying that people of color can’t be bigoted or homophobic – we are. But what always chafes me about these issues is that people jump to a gut reaction like “blacks have a problem with homophobia” in their community without taking the time to figure out why something happened the way it did.

That aside though, Prop 8 brought up a lot of good conversations as to the nature of community building, homophobia in nonwhite communities, the idea of solidarity, and how we so often fail to notice the interlocking oppressions that manifest themselves when we try to mass organize.

I asked the contributors here to share their thoughts on the passing of Prop 8. Here is what they said.

Andrea Plaid:

This hurts me deeply.

It hurts me deeply that a majority of Black, Latin@, and Asian Californians refused to see how racial and sexual oppression–and liberation–are linked to each other. They voted to maintain their places in the kyriarchy instead of working for the freedom of another group who suffers–and have died and still die–to simply express their desire to create intimate, life-long relationships so they’ll have one person–just one person–bear witness to their lives. No, the PoCs who voted for this hateful policy are owed and do not owe a quid pro quo to queer communities, but they–we–do owe them the common courtesy to ensure an environment to be able to live peacebly with whomever they wish to live with. In a secular society–where, by definition do not have a state-endorse and -enforced religion and, in this particular societywe have so many to choose from and quite a few of us have traveled from religion to religion–should abide by the faith of civility. The same civility PoCs have lived, bled, and died for what we’ve demanded from whites is what our queer relatives, friends, co-workers, neighbors want from us. That’s all–nothing less and nothing more.

And because we live in a secular society, we simply can’t use our deities and our sacred books as reasoning to justify what we did to our queer brethern and sistren–literally and figuratively–at the voting booth in CA. If we can’t agree on a religion, how can we say whose god said what and which sacred sayings apply for the rest of the US, especially when it comes to legislating other people’s lives?

And, honestly, I think the religious argument serves as a smoke screen for judging what people do in their bedrooms. That’s right: sex. The revulsion I’ve seen in these anti-gay marriage arguments seems seated in a certain curiosity with the kind of sex queer people are having. Using a deity’s name and scriptures allow a disconnected piety as a gossamer veil for the can’t-quite-look-away fascination people have with how queer people fuck. But this is the argument I’ve used to cut the crap around that disingenuousness: in a secular society, a person should expect three things from zie’s neighbors: 1) they pay their taxes, 2) they maintain their dwelling places, and 3) if they have children, then they are rearing well-adjusted, productive children. How exactly does fucking influence those three things? And usually that kills the argument.

That is perhaps, where the post-Prop 8 activism rests–not in loud, shoe-sole wearing marches–but in quiet advocacy, of discussing with family members and friends and neighbors to help them see that we’re connected. And, more than ever, we can use these words to remind us why we need to connect our struggles and our advocacy to develop a civil society for all of us:

“In Germany they came first for the Communists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Communist. Then they came for the Jews, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Jew. Then they came for the trade unionists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a trade unionist. Then they came for the Catholics, and I didn’t speak up because I was a Protestant.

Then they came for me, and by that time no one was to speak up.”
~~Fr. Martin Niemoller

Arturo Garcia:

For me it keeps coming back to the numbers. And at the risk of sounding like a pollyanna, the numbers lead me to believe there *is* hope for the days ahead.

Everybody comes back to the “70% support” for Prop 8 among black voters. What gets ignored is, blacks only made up 10 percent of the total number of voters, anyway. Latinos, who voted for Prop 8 by a 53-47 margin, only made up 18 percent of that number. Guess what? Whites still constitute 70 percent of said voting population, and the measure only failed with them by two percentage points.

Moreover, while California had more registered voters than ever before — the AP reported more than 17 million people around the state — only about 5 million of them actually voted for this specific proposition. Seven million Californians didn’t vote at all on the issue. A sweeping mandate, this was not. This gives me hope.

Also, in looking at those CNN exit polls, you can see that the percentage of voters who were for Prop. 8 drops off by age. While 61 percent of all seniors voted for it, 64 percent of all voters 18-24 — the demographic advertisers crave the most — voted against it. And less than 48 hours after the vote, this group is pissed off and organizing. Facebook groups. Boycotts targeting pro-Prop 8 businesses. Protest marches. Ironically, the young people Prop. 8 purported to “protect” may well steer the path toward its’ ultimate demise.

Thea Lim:

I live in Canada. Same sex marriage has been legal here for 3 years – not that long, but long enough for it to be a very normal thing for an urban Canadian like me. It’s easy for me to forget that in the vast majority of the world, same sex marriage is illegal. I was incredibly taken aback and saddened to hear that California voted for Proposition 8.

But this isn’t the first time a social justice movement, when faced with failure, has blamed people of colour. In fact the lack of people of colour within certain mainstream social justice movements (like the environmental movement or the anti-globalisation movement) occurs in part because people of colour are consistently used as scapegoats when progressive goals fall short.

I regularly hear, for example, that people of colour (and often poor people) don’t care about environmental issues – though that’s clearly untrue. Another famous (Canadian) example: when Quebec held a referendum in 1995 to separate from Canada, the leader of the separatist movement blamed “the ethnic vote” when the referendum didn’t pass.

As Nadra and Latoya have pointed out, it’s clear from the numbers that Prop 8 could not have been passed by the African American vote alone. We know that 70% of African American voters in California voted for Prop 8. It’s pretty telling however, that no one is talking about what percentage of white voters voted for Prop 8.

When people of colour are blamed for homophobia, it not only (stupidly) exempts white folks from homophobia, it also totally renders queer people of colour invisible. Creating an opposition between queer people and people of colour suggests that there’s no one who falls into both of those categories.

Not to mention the fact that perhaps, for queer people of colour (and white queer folks too), priorities are different. Marriage is not always number one on the list. In the words of Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore:

    Gay marriage does nothing to address fundamental problems of inequality. What is needed is universal access to basic necessities like housing, health care, food, and the benefits now obtained through citizenship (like the right to stay in this country).

But while we’re dealing with the racism that puts the blame for Prop 8 solely on the shoulders of people of colour, we do also need to admit, and then confront, the homophobia that exists in communities of colour. I don’t really care to talk about whether or not white communities or more or less homophobic than our own; it’s a pretty fruitless debate.

Fighting the racist rhetoric around Prop 8 doesn’t require us to deny that homophobia exists in our communities. The fact of the matter is that as anti-racist people of colour, we should be worried about how the homophobia in our own communities daily puts the physical and emotional needs of queer people of colour at risk.

There are many initiatives in the US that seek to address our own homophobia. The Dari Project is one. Supporting these initiatives may be the best way to prove that those who blame Prop 8 on people of colour are wrong.

Many thanks to M, F and Michelle for their help.

Nadra Kareem:

I still find it mind-boggling that 70 percent of black Californians voted for Proposition 8. Although I’ve heard time and again that blacks are raging homophobes, that stereotype never rang true for me. Perhaps this is because I’ve known gay, straight and bisexual blacks, alike, not to mention blacks of all political and religious affiliations. Or perhaps this is because the homophobic comments I’ve heard blacks make didn’t seem to be more extreme than the homophobic comments I’ve heard whites, Asians and Latinos make. Adding to my confusion is that one of the most homophobic members of my immediate family has become less so as she is exposed to gays and lesbians in her workplace and in popular culture. As America has become more accepting of gays, so has she.

I don’t know whether this family member would have voted for or against Prop. 8, and I don’t know what motivated those blacks who did to do so. What I do know is that California’s blacks don’t make up enough of the electorate to be responsible for Prop. 8’s passage, so why focus on this part of the population other than to suggest that, while Americans were open-minded enough to elect a black president, blacks are too narrow-minded to support gay rights. I am also curious as to why the media hasn’t broken down California’s black electorate into smaller segments so the public can have a better idea about which blacks supported the proposition. Were highly educated blacks overwhelmingly in support of the proposition? How about well-income blacks? I suspect not.

The only distinction I’ve heard the media make about California’s black electorate is that we were likely to have been influenced by the Church. I, for one, am a black who would be considered a highly religious member of the electorate because I attend church services weekly. Yet, I voted against Proposition 8. While I believe that the New Testament defines marriage as the union between one man and one woman, I recognize the separation that exists between church and state. This is a distinction that Jesus made himself when he said in Matthew 22:21, “Give to Caesar what is Caesar’s, and to God what is God’s.”

If Jesus recognized the separation between church and state, why are Christians so bent on making their religious beliefs law? If we recognize the laws of the land, as Jesus did, there can be no denying that, while there is no Biblical basis for same-sex marriage, stripping two willing adults of their right to marry in the U.S. constitutes discrimination, and, therefore, should be illegal.

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Comments

  1. Slush wrote:

    A year ago I spent the summer in South Africa, a country that seemed to me in several ways to be similar to the United States during the civil rights movement. South Africa is a very diverse country with a very intense racial history, and it is undergoing a pretty serious social and cultural revolution that began in the 1990s. (Some would say it began earlier of course, but it really took off at the end of apartheid.)

    The thing I found particularly inspiring about South Africa was exactly what Andrea was talking about: civil rights struggles have found incredible unity and common ground with each other, in a way I don’t see in the United States. There is plenty of racism and bigotry all over South Africa, for sure, but there is also a real consciousness among progressives about the equal rights of all citizens and the importance of acknowledging the similarity of different social struggles.

    I don’t think we have nearly as much of that unity and recognition of fellow travelers in the United States – not only regarding the issue of homophobia in liberal bastions, but also of white liberals thinking that civil rights is all about wire-tapping and free speech because they don’t see racism as a big enough problem, or human rights activists focusing on developing countries and neglecting their neighbors, or people of color arguing that racism is a more important problem than sexism, while white women argue the reverse.

    I think that the statistics on Prop 8 do demonstrate an attitude among African Americans in California and it’s kind of silly to try to deny the significance of it – which isn’t to place blame, since plenty of others obviously voted for it as well. That said, the way popular media uses demographics is almost always fallacious. Why do we care that 70% of African Americans in California voted for it, but not care that 61% of seniors voted for it? 70 is more than 61, but both are large majorities. And why do we not break down the votes by Church attendance, rather than race?

  2. DEAF FEMINIST PUNK!! wrote:

    there is hatred and bigotry everywhere, even among people of color.

    I hoped Prop 8 would failed, but I wasn’t surprised that many POC voted in favor of it.

  3. Atena wrote:

    “We know that 70% of African American voters in California voted for Prop 8. ”

    This is actually misleading and confusing.

    There is a very real difference between 70% of African Americans in the state of California and 70% of the African Americans that went to the polls and voted on this issue. The latter is the accurate figure. Please be careful about how you say this, because it matters.

    Thank you all for your thoughtful responses. This is weighing on my heart heavily. I am so happy about Obama’s victory, but Prop 8’s passage is mind-blowing to me. (But we all have to admit that there are compromises in Obama’s candidacy and victory, and his winning was never to be proof that bigotry is squashed. Still, it feels incongruous.)

    Oppressed groups have never automatically fallen in line with one another, even if it would be mutually beneficial to do so. Such alliances require hard work, ongoing strengthening of relationships and focus on shared goals. I don’t know what was done to build bridges into communities of ethnic minorities, but from what I’ve been reading, it wasn’t as much as the ‘Vote Yes’ people were doing.

    Pointing fingers and blaming homophobia in black communities is not the solution to this problem. It’s a distraction from the community building that needs to happen to make things right.

  4. Rita wrote:

    I appreciate this article. It raises the point that reality is almost always more complicated than our initial simplistic reading of it.

    If Dan Savage was sincere but simplistic in his reading yesterday, likewise Thea Lim’s comment that “When people of colour are blamed for homophobia, it not only (stupidly) exempts white folks from homophobia, it also totally renders queer people of colour invisible.,” is also a simplistic interpretation of Dan Savage.

    What I hear many people saying, and what I feel myself, is that a) we assume that oppressed peoples will be natural allies, hence the feelings of betrayal, and b) we need to look self-critically at how to forge those alliances and strengthen those bonds.

    There are important lessons to be learned here. Let’s not miss those lessons by focusing on simplistic reactions to one another. After all, that’s how those in power stay in power: by setting off oppressed groups against each other.

  5. Coco wrote:

    What I’ve been wondering is how well informed people actually were…I’m not from one of these states, however I know in my state when I went to the poll I had no idea what the proposition on the ballot was about as there was no explanation.

  6. Ali wrote:

    Atena,
    I agree with your premise, but that quote you show actually specifies voters, not the whole AA population. Many uses of the 70% number are misleading, but that one was actually quite specific.

  7. Atena wrote:

    Ali – I see your point, and it is a valid one. I did see that it said ‘voters’ and not citizens, but as presented it still assumes that all voters came out and voted on this issue, i.e. 100% voter turnout among AAs. I don’t think that actually happened. Someone please correct me if I’m mistaken.

    The larger point I want to make is that in allowing specificity of phrasing to slip, the popular understanding (and I’m getting this from a variety of sources, not just Racialicious) has become ‘70% of African Americans in CA’ passed this proposition, and that’s what people are responding to. Specificity matters.

  8. Mammith wrote:

    I have seen a lot of people arguing that we should be focusing on religion rather then race, but even this is problematic when race and religion aren’t two things that can always be wholly seperated.

    I’m not saying religion is inherent or anything silly like that (hey I’m an ‘apostate’ myself) but to give an example, in the black community community leaders will, quite frequently be pastors or at least associated with the church. Now the GLBT movement (with an emphasis on the G and L but whatever) which is being directed mainly by white, middle class people don’t really have a dialog with any of them, preferring their ‘black-tie dinner’s’ and whathaveyou.

    If GLBT organizations don’t talk to black and other POC community leaders then of course the crazy Christian Right will be able to win people over with misinformation and scare tactics.

    Being a queer, ethnic minority myself, I’ve always been annoyed with the approach of GLBT organizations, I don’t think I’ve ever seen one POC associated with any of them.

  9. Latoya Peterson wrote:

    @Atena –

    Well, in that case, let’s make it more specific.

    70% of African American respondents to the exit polls responded that they voted yes to Prop 8. That’s a small sample and highly variable to other circumstances. I participated in my first exit poll ever, this election – and that is only because I walked the *opposite* way than most other voters did. (My polling place is a library – I went to the library instead of back toward to parking lot.) Exit polls are a rough estimate and they don’t collect much information. So that factors as well.

  10. Atena wrote:

    Latoya – thanks for the insight. I knew exit polls were imprecise, but I had no idea that they were as unreliable as that.

  11. cinco wrote:

    Come on people…the word ‘queer’ is outdated and derogatory.

    I don’t care if gays are married, or if they adopt. I know too many people that are straight, myself included that aren’t the greatest parriage partners or parents.

    There are too many real issues in the world. What’s next gays can’t work with certain people? Or live in certain places? The government and the church should stay out of their business.

  12. Marge Twain wrote:

    Nobody is holding black people wholly responsible for the passage of Prop 8. Let’s please stop with this straw man.

    Why focus on the 70% of black voters as opposed to 61% of seniors or 49% of white voters who are in the majority of Californians? It seems obvious to me. Turnout among AAs was extremely high because of Barack Obama. Obama and Biden repeatedly spread the mistruth that civil unions and domestic partnerships are just as good as marriage. Obama has been emphatic on many occasions that he doesn’t think marriage is necessary for gay couples, but that it’s possible to support them anyway, while denying them this right. He’s been campaigning with anti-gay minister Donnie McClurkin. He emphasized it as a religious, not a civil issue, saying “God is in the mix” Homophobic Californians could comfortably vote for either major party candidate for president.

    Some people think it’s ironic that AAs would be dancing in the street, singing “we have overcome” the same night that an overwhelming percentage of them voted to take away civil rights from another group. I’m angry about that, even though I get to keep my interracial, agnostic, polyamorous, childless-by-choice marriage to a man. Meanwhile, someone like Dan Savage who’s raising a child with his long-time partner just got a slap in the face by the voters of CA and FL and AZ and AR and those same people are crying with joy about how far they’ve come. It’s hard to dance in the street when there are tread marks on your back.

  13. Iggles wrote:

    @ Latoya

    Wow. While it’s clear a majority of AA who voted on Prop 8 it’s disturbing how the media is reporting that figure. 70% of the exit poll responders. As you said, a small sample.

    8 million Californians did not vote on prop 8 at all. Our of 17 million voters in all, only the 5 million voted yes. This is not a mandate. Unfortunately it is being treated as such. And far worst is that this ridiculous bill passed at all.

    The Jim King article in the Nation shed a lot of light on the successful organization of the “Yes on 8″ crew. Lots of money + feverish volunteers + huge disinformation campaign fueled the support they received.

    I think false information is what tipped the scales. I don’t think most Californians are homophobic – black, white, latino, asians, etc. What makes alot of straight people uncomfortable about gay marriage is the scare tactic idea that it is “threatening” straight marriage.

    I’ll explain this further. A few months ago I read about a straight couple who refused to sign their marriage license when they saw the gender neutral forms that said, “applicant A” and “applicant B” instead of husband and wife. They were appalled at what they viewed as redefining marriage.

    Add that fear with the whisper campaign about children being taught about homosexuality in school and I can see how the disinformation campaign would be effective on low-information voters on Prop 8.

    There is no doubt in my mind that the 8 million CA voters who did not vote on Prop 8 did so because they didn’t know enough or care enough about the issue.

    Sad to say, those most effected by an issue know the most about it. I think ultimately the passing of Prop 8 is not due to prejudice, but lack of reach out to those undecideds.

    As for the 5 million Californians who voted for this measure, I hope they reconsider. And for the true bigots who will not, I ask one question: What Would Jesus Do?

  14. Ali wrote:

    cinco, many people actually self identify as queer (case in point: 2 comments above yours). Can it still be used as a slur? absolutely, but that’s not the case on this thread.

  15. Ali wrote:

    @ Atena & Latoya,
    Thanks for the further clarification. Like I said I completely agree with your point and I neraly slapped myself in the forhead when I saw someone on the Dan Savage thread (you, Atena?) point it out for not thinking of it myself. I just felt that Thea actually managed to cover the point you were making :)

  16. Latoya Peterson wrote:

    @Marge –

    A strawman is it? May I ask you how many questions you’ve fielded about the blatant homophobia in the black community, and how many times someone has contacted you to ask why blacks are so bigoted? And have you ever sat there wondering how the fuck you got here, reading through pages of market research that says that the black community is religious so the best way to target them is through their churches, being an a-religious black person? And do you have to deal with issues, day in and day out from people outside of the black community trying to point the finger at blacks for whatever crap they are trying to get passed not working? (See Thea’s examples above.)

    The spin on this story is disturbing, particularly when it is so clear *WHY* prop 8 passed:

    Gay activists, by most accounts, were simply outmaneuvered. Andrea Shorter, a black lesbian volunteer for the No on 8 campaign, told me that the outreach to the African-American community began in earnest a week ago. “What’s happened is that there’s been an outcry from communities of color, including African-American communities, who say, ‘Include us!’ Now there’s a GOTV strategy, but for some it seems last minute,” she said in an interview before the election. Another No on 8 activist, Karin Wang, told me at the City Hall rally that when Asian Pacific Islander groups went to buy ads in Chinese and Korean newspapers, they were informed that the Yes on 8 had been renting space for weeks.

    Going “OMG, someone has to talk about black homophobia” is a dodge. Exit polls are based on a small sample, and are confined to that state. Are there problems in discussing intersectionality in various communities? Sure. Does it feel like a punch to the gut when people you think are in solidarity with your pull some bullshit? Of course. (See – me and feminism. Weren’t you involved with the “don’t paint all feminists with the same brush” conversation?)

    But that’s no excuse for trying to demonize communities of color by acting like this is solely a problem that we created, and ignoring the outreach issues, planning by the LGBT committees and marginalization of gay activists of color that *LED* to this point.

    Marge, this is one of the oldest fucking gambits in the book.

    And your comment here:

    Some people think it’s ironic that AAs would be dancing in the street, singing “we have overcome” the same night that an overwhelming percentage of them voted to take away civil rights from another group.

    Proves that point. You want to fall for the okey-doke, that’s fine. But the numbers were laid out by Arturo & Yvette. You want to demonize *all* blacks as being out of touch with the civil rights struggles of others, fine.

    Those of us who aren’t going to let stupid ass race war bullshit from figuring out what actually happened and how we can provide more effective outreach to the *demographics who were targeted, and who went for prop 8* will be doing our thing.

  17. Monie wrote:

    The problem isn’t Black people or any other ethnic group. The problem is religion. Religious people are the most bigoted, hateful people you will ever meet. Many millions of people have been killed in the name of religion. Religion has been used to justify, slavery, women being the property of their husbands and countless wars.

    The Mormons were behind Prop 8. If anyone deserves the blame or credit for its passage it’s the Mormons.

    Same gender marriage ought not to have been outlawed, religion should have been outlawed. We would all be so much better off.

  18. Latoya Peterson wrote:

    @Monie –

    I disagree. Religious people are a diverse group.

    In my experience, religion is a tool, similar to a knife. Some people use knives to create nourishment, breaking down sustenance into manageable pieces for everyone to enjoy. Some people use the knife to stab people.

    So basically, I avoid religious people who are trying to stab me and hang with people who are trying to feed me. But the all or nothing thing doesn’t really work.

  19. Ali wrote:

    Sorry for the multiple posts, I was going to include this in my original response to cinco but I was (and still am) struggling to word it correctly.

    On reason many people use queer (as a descriptor, not a put down) is that it covers the L the G the B and the T. Heck, some friends have included me as “queer” despite being straight, because I’m gender nonconforming.

    back on topic, thanks to the Racialicious crew for breaking down the “black vs gay” bullshit

  20. Logan wrote:

    Well I screwed up the math earlier in the Savage thread (I took into account the total # of black people in California, not the eligible number of black voters, which by my calculations is roughly 1.2 million voters), so my post there can be discounted, but there still is the absentee vote to be tallied, so if it brings the pass/fail margin down to 300,000, the however many black voters who showed up for the election (at this number it is only 750k who needed to vote at the 70% clip, still a possible number) could be a deciding factor in the bill’s passing or failing.

    And I think age is a pretty faulty comparison to make, since the assumptions that can be made about age are more well known and accurate. Traditionally, older people are much more conservative and set in values, and lean toward Conservative ideology (if I could find a stupid place with just like a ton of election demographics I could point this out), hence it is not surprising at all that older people would vote for Prop 8. The anger just seems that it was so unexpected the votes would skew this far, especially compared to all other demographics in the state which all hovered around 50%.

    Latoya: In general its very easy to dismiss things like exit polling or any kind of statistical data, but for the most part it is the most accurate way to acquire information. I did the research back in a college course a few years ago on statistics and such, and one of the things covered was results that showed that once you hit over 1000 people, give or take, with random sampling, you’ll be at roughly the +- 3% margin of error. Many things can invalidate a study/exit poll if done wrong, but it is rather well wishing to just dismiss the data as being completely off or just a bad day for the pollsters (which you didn’t seem to be doing, but I feel others might want to do or use as a reason to ignore the real issues behind the voting).

  21. Monie wrote:

    Latoya,

    Maybe my comment was a bit extreme but I am really tired of (some) religious people. They seem to be always trying to tell others how to live their lives according to their warped view of the world.

    I also hate that so many African Americans are willing to follow the Religious Right’s bigoted view of this country. The Black church is no longer a tool for the advancement of human rights; it has turned into a tool (for money) of the Religious Right. That’s shameful.

  22. Mammith wrote:

    @Ali, yeah I choose to self-identify as Queer because the terms Gay and Bisexual don’t really fit me, plus they put you in the mind of a lifestyle I don’t associate with. I look at it as a way as letting people know you aren’t the ‘norm’ but without compartmentalizing yourself into a convenient ‘box’. but yeah, OT.

    @Monie, while I am no fan of religion, you can’t just say that everyone who follows it are bad. yes it can enable the worst kind of person, but it also gives some people a reason to help others. Even if it is all fairies at the bottom of the garden.

  23. Ashley wrote:

    My apartment is across the street from a Mormon Church in California. The rallies that were held in support of Prop 8 were well organized political rallies, full of hate, lies and fear tactics. Apparently there is no separation between church and state…how about if we start taxing all of the churches immediately. How would they like that? Forgive me, but doesn’t the Constitution clearly state, “Separation of Church and State”??? Plain and simple, Discrimination is wrong and should not be supported by any law.

  24. Ron wrote:

    I find the finger pointing and blame game to be childish. My mother voted for Barack but I have not asked her about Prop 8 yet. I figure she probably voted yes.

    The black community in South L.A. is so far removed from the westside that they are worlds apart.

    Gays in West Hollywood do not interact with blacks in South L.A. Black men traveling in west hollywood are just as likely to be profiled in gay communities as they are in straight white communities.

    Further, SOME gay white men have gone out of their way to mock black people. I think the gay community needs to build bridges with blacks if they want support for their rights.

    Moreover, most blacks may never agree with legalizing gay marriage.

  25. Atena wrote:

    Monie – I am a religious person. My religion affirms same-sex couples and marries them in our churches. I teach sunday school, and take my daughter to church every Sunday, and associate with church friends outside of church so that she will grow up surrounded by adults and children who value acceptance, understanding, fairness and justice. My faith sharpens my vision for a life that seeks justice and equality and challenges me to embrace radical hospitality. This is true for me and a lot of other people.

    Rein in your bias. Religion is not the the enemy. Undifferentiated bias fired off at large groups of people is the problem.

  26. Rob Schmidt wrote:

    Article on Prop. 8’s legality:

    http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-gaylegal6-2008nov06,0,220763.story

    Map showing votes by county and comparing Prop. 8 totals to Prop. 22 totals eight years ago:

    http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-2008election-prop8prop22,0,333635.htmlstory

  27. murphy wrote:

    There are many, many problems with exit polls — it’s hard to adequately sample polling places to get the true diversity of the electorate. That said, I crunched some numbers that should give us a better of what the quoted statistic actually tells us.

    There is a 95% chance that the percentage of black voters who voted on Prop 8 is between 64% and 76%. That’s a pretty big range. But it also means that we can be almost certain that more than 64% of black Prop 8 voters voted for the measure. On the other end, it could be that almost 3/4 voted for it.

    So even though the sample was small (hence the 6 point margin of error), it still indicated quite a lot of support for Prop 8 among African American voters.

  28. Latoya Peterson wrote:

    @Logan -

    Yes, your points are valid. Exit polls are imperfect, but most polling is – and it is currently one of the best ways we have to get a snap shot of the electorate.

    That being said, as someone who worked with data for a living (I still do, but to a much lesser extent) a lot of times, what is stated and what the data actually means are things that are miles apart. And more over, a sample size can give a trend, but not a definite answer. (We saw this with that weird video on illegal immigration in CA I posted a while back – they took a percentage and applied it to a whole number to talk about the murders committed by undocumented people – without having actual data, but presenting their findings as fact.)

    Also, as someone who used to work in market research, I know that data is highly skewed by the methods employed by the people collecting and analyzing the data. So, some data houses are meticulous, putting in sample groups, independent research, five year trend analysis and what have you, others were basically watching Univison, read a couple message boards, and turned that into a report.

    So, in essence, it depends. I am not objecting to the data itself, or reporting the data as presented. What is killing me is the spin placed on the story. And what happens with that is people tend to look at a data set and then *fall back on stereotypes* to confirm what they *think* the data means.

    Case in point – I changed day jobs, so now I do work that has a strong environmental advocacy component. And the common knowledge from polling says minorities aren’t interested in environmental issues. Now, from my work and personal life, I know that’s a damn lie – the environment just isn’t the *most* important thing when you talk to nonwhites, and even nonwhites in the movement acknowledge that it can be difficult to get an environmental message out when concerns like economic setbacks and racism are seen as more pressing.

    So, many people in the eco sphere just keep shouting their message, never taking the time to figure out why they aren’t recruiting PoCs because, well, PoCs don’t care about the environment.

    Van Jones & Majora Carter’s organization Green For All’s message is revolutionary in the fact that they openly engage with the issues of racism and present a value proposition for communities of color. And they have found a very large audience. So sometimes, it’s a simple matter of flipping the message.

    But that can’t happen if you look at a data poll and then make a biased assumption off what that data presents, without digging into that issue further. And that’s what I see happening with Prop 8. The quick line is “blacks are homophobic” not – “oh, 70% of black voters in the exit polls voted yes on prop 8? Why did that happen? Who did they talk to? What did they think prop 8 was proposing? How do we reach them?”

    Nope, it’s blacks (and by smaller margin, Latinos) are homophobes, case closed.

  29. Latoya Peterson wrote:

    @Monie –

    Yes, I know it gets tiring. But keep in mind the thousands of people you know who are religious, but choose not to inflict their beliefs on others. Call them the silent majority. Even if they are outscreamed by the fringes.

    @Ashley –

    Technically, the Constitution doesn’t say that. And more over, our Constitution basically only provides for freedom of religion not freedom from religion. However, our first amendment rights do provide provisions for the separation of religion and governance, and the courts have more or less ruled to uphold those ideas.

    http://atheism.about.com/od/churchstatemyths/a/phrase.htm

    @Ron –

    Please do not make blanket generalizations. “Most blacks may never agree with legalizing gay marriage” is just a hop skip and jump from “Most whites may never agree with desegregation.”

  30. Gringory wrote:

    Looking at the aftermath of Prop 8, I say it all comes down to marketing. The proponents of Prop 8 were very smart when it came to marketing as mentioned countless articles. People should learn from this mistake and do better outreach marketing and politicking to be quite frank.

  31. Ron wrote:

    @ Latoya -

    Generalizations are a necessary evil even if we do not like them. We generalize to get to the specific and vice versa. The operative word in the sentence is “may” although I should have not used, “never.”

    Although people may not agree with a particular law, people usually comply. If we have substantial compliance with the law then that modifies behavior which leads new values.

  32. cinco wrote:

    Ok I did not know ‘queer’ can be an acceptable descriptive term of sexual orientation by some.

  33. Logan wrote:

    Latoya: Completely understandable, I was just worried about the people who dismiss poll numbers they don’t like as all polls being unreliable (almost like the Wikipedia argument actually about its validity). And yeah, the taking the polls at face point to show that all blacks are homophobes (kinda what Savage did) is irritating, even if out of frustration and anger.

    On Church vs. State: From my recollection\, the laws were wrote to prevent the government from being able to persecute religious organizations (hence no taxes on churches), and to prevent the Church from having the outright political power to turn the US into a theocratic state. Arguably the church as special interest groups could violate this, but that is a significant stretch that wouldn’t hold up in any court. As for laws, well, the basis of laws is what is good and bad for the community as a whole, which is based off of what an individual person feels is good or bad. With gay marriage, while many people’s views are set in religious views, the views just support the view and form the foundation that allowing gay marriage might impact the values of marriage and the community, and would in turn hurt the community.

  34. Arturo wrote:

    Since we’re hearing from people who regularly attend church here, I have some questions:

    What do you or your church do when it comes to confronting prejudicial attitudes?

    Are they handled differently when it comes to race or creed as opposed to sexual orientation?

    Do your local churches communicate with one another on these matters?

    And, if you and your church were at odds on the Prop. 8 issue (or Prop. 2, if you’re in Florida), how did you address that?

  35. L. wrote:

    @ Cinco:

    Yeah, it’s actually the “Q”* in the extended LGBTQ.

    *Q is also for questioning.

  36. Cactus Lion wrote:

    There is some validity in criticizing GLBT organizations for historically presenting a “white face”, as opposed to more widely (and accurately) presenting the true diversity within the GLBT community. I think that’s been well-addressed and I’m not really going to get into that (and as a preface, just because I’m not really getting into it in this post doesn’t mean I don’t agree with it). I’d rather though add some thoughts to nuance this criticism, as many posts on both this and the previous thread seem to bluntly put forth this argument as the real reason Yes on 8 passed – posts which, frankly, are as crude as Dan Savage’s.

    First of all, I think most of appreciate that diversity can be, and is, a strength, but that at times it can be somewhat unwieldly. As an example: one thing Republicans have had going for them these past few decades is that they are a relatively homogeneous group, where the Democratic party has recently historically been relatively more heterogeneous – ethnically, racially, I would also even add philosophically, etc. It is, pratically speaking, a lot easier to galvanize a group around an issue, cause, proposition, what have you, if your group has minimal diversity amongst itself. Less diversity almost always equals less diversity of thought, which equals less tension. Less potential for cracks. So more ‘wieldly’.

    Having said that, the GLBT community has more diversity than any other minority. We are every race, every ethnicity, every gender, every age, every religion, in every country, every everything (except straight). Talk about intersectionality? There’s nothing about the GLBT movement that isn’t intersectional. So it will ALWAYS be one of the great challenges of the GLBT movement to accurately present (and understand and celebrate) its diversity. And I don’t think a lot of posters here have appreciated that aspect of it. This is not a defense of where the GLBT movement has fallen short, but just to say that getting it all right – well, it’s a lot harder than it looks.

    Second point, that while GLBT people are everywhere-everything, the one thing we are usually not is born into a family with each other. Most of us, the VAST majority of us, were and always will be, born into straight nuclear families, with straight parents, straight siblings, watching straight TV shows, going to overwhelmingly straight schools, etc. Unlike the racial or ethnic aspects to our identities, our gay-selves our mostly born into families where we were are alone in our gayness. Gay people seek each other out. We have to. Not just because we’ve been getting kicked out of the house (some of us) for years, but in order to find other gay people, to love, to laugh with, to TALK TO, to realize we’re not alone… and to organize with. And we haven’t been too successful at it for that long – only in the last few decades have we really been able to get something going and get some organization/s off the ground. We wasted the last few thousand years getting picked off individually and being locked away in prisons and being killed for being ourselves. But finally, recently (VERY recently) we’ve started to meet each other in greater numbers and gotten a few things going. My second point is: our organizations and our organization is RECENT. The GLBT organizations that are out there currently aren’t these historic, halls of power, they are literally just people coming together ad-hoc. If we aren’t as slick politically yet, if we aren’t perfectly successful yet in targeting all communities and getting our message(s) across, part of it is because we’re the new kid on the block. (We might be further along if half of our best and brightest and most out there and experienced politically were here to help guide us, but AIDS saw to that).

    My third point: we can only be as diverse, media-wise, as there are those of us who are out. I don’t have statistics to back this up, or to prove otherwise (and if anyone does please prove me wrong), but I would venture to say that a larger proportion of white Americans identify as GLBT than black Americans or Asian Americans or Latino Americans or First Americans. Like I said, I don’t have stats to back up this point, just my obviously not encyclopedic life experience. More whites are out, proportionally, than other racial groups. There are LOTS of reasons for this – I tend to think of it like dozens of vicious cycles tearing across the country like cyclones – and there are MILLIONS of out, loud, proud GLBT people of color (including those FIERCE black and Puerto Rican drag queens without whom Stonewall would never have occurred, those fierce founding mothers), but while the GLBT movement, like I said in my first point, is the most diverse minority movement there is, I would unscientifically venture to say that it is somewhat not as proportionally as diverse in the United States as the United States itself is diverse. We need more GLBT people to come out period, and we need more GLBT people of color to come out and self-identify as gay, double period.

    One of the vicious cycles I mentioned above is I do think there is more homophobia, say, in the African-American community than in the country at large (a debateable point – and a CHANGEABLE point, but my opinion on the current state of things), which leads to a less proportional number of African-Americans being able to come out, which leads to less African-Americans being out, which leads to less African-Americans realizing that we are brothers, sisters, aunts and uncles, father and mothers, which means are issues are less known, which leads to more ignorance in this matter, which leads to more homophobia.

    Exactly why GLBT people of color need more visibility through what organizations we do have, yes – I can see another one of those vicious cycles starting.

    My fourth point, with regard to Proposition 8, I think it’s important for people who are somehow weighing the racial scales in their posts regarding GLBT outreach to communities of color compared to the Yes on 8 movement, is that the No on 8 campaign was severely underfunded for most of the campaign – up until the last two weeks or the No on 8 movement was millions and millions and millions behind the Yes on 8 campaign. It’s fucking HARD to compete financially (and organizationally) with the likes of the Mormon Church and Knights of Columbus. Yes on 8 was so well-funded throughout, it’s a slight easier to target every segment of the most diverse state in the nation when you almost have limitless funds.

    Now – in retrospect were mistakes made in the No on 8 campaign? I think that’s obvious. And a shame, that the most diverse minority group in the world couldn’t tap into that strength to get the result in the US’ most diverse state, but it’s not as simple when talking about the GLBT movement to cry racism (it’s there, sure) in this instance. Cause I gotta say, a lot of posts on here are coming off “serves you right” – and I hope that’s really not the intent of the discussion.

    And lastly, I just want to let the cosmic record state: fundamental rights should never have been put up to a fucking popular vote in the first palce.

  37. T wrote:

    Personally I think where things are screwed between the two communities is the comparison between the gay rights movement and the civil rights movement. I think that pisses black people off. I know it turns me off a bit.
    I think the Gay community should have found a better way to find common ground with the black community instead of approaching them or never approaching them like they were just going to inherit the black vote.

  38. fran wrote:

    I am an AA Christian female that does not live in California. I rarely comment on these types of issues because of the attacks that come once you state that you do not believe that homosexuality is sanctioned by God. My belief that homosexuality is outside God’s will does not mean that I am against civil unions (I support them) or that I hate gay people (I don’t). However, why is it OK for people to dismiss people of faith who have an alternative view, ie Donnie McClurkin. I see so many mean and negative comments about AA people of faith that it is a huge turn off. Most of my friends are educated AA Christians. While we do not agree that homosexuality is what God wants for his children, we don’t talk negatively about gay people, insinuate that they are not good people and would never use hurtful slurs against them. THAT behavior is not in God’s will. IMHO.

    To many of the peole I know, it is a huge turnoff when people dismiss the seriousness of our faith and treat it with disrespect. The scorn is so apparent that I just keep quiet. You are automatically labeled “homophobic” (a word I think is grossly overused) if you do not support gay marriage.

    The first time I heard about Prop 8 was a week before the election on a national black radio show. They played the ads first, which were all about forcing churches and schools to support a gay agenda. The host was against Prop 8 and there was a representative from the gay community on the show explaining that the ads were false.

    Now, when I first heard the ads, I supported Prop 8. Once I realized that they were lies, I had an alternate view. Of course, I don’t live in California so I couldn’t vote anyway. My point is that those ads were designed to make people believe that the state was going to force you to accept homosexuality in your church and school, against your wishes. Now, if people who were against Prop 8 did not mobilize in a timely manner, as several have indicated above, to combat these lies, it is a shame that black people have to bear the blame for this deception instead of placing it where it belongs.

    Peace.

  39. Marge Twain wrote:

    Latoya, Dan Savage, as reported yesterday, and the many articles and blog posts I’ve been reading these past few days since the election, have not said that black people(or PoC, in Thea’s words or communities of color like you said) were solely responsible for the passage of Prop 8. Some folks have been spinning it that way and it’s very easy to rebut. That’s a straw-man argument, is it not? If you think it’s actually typical that folks are calling it ” solely a problem that we created” show me, please. I’ve read more articles that heap all the blame on the Mormons.

    Secondly, you’re being facetious with your rhetorical questions (”May I ask you how many questions you’ve fielded about the blatant homophobia in the black community”…) I described what I think is an analogous situation in the thread yesterday. Don’t act like I’m unqualified to comment on this because I’m not black. If you think I don’t have grounds to comment, then most of the folks here are just as unqualified, including many who agree with you.

    Most Indians are far more conservative than me and the self-selecting Indians I know. If I read that a majority of Indians polled voted yes to legalize setting widows on fire, I wouldn’t say “Well that’s mostly Hindus” or “I need to see that broken down by education level” or “The widows didn’t do enough outreach in the temples” or “None of my friends agree with that so it’s just a stereotype not a representation” I wouldn’t do that downtrodden class a further disservice by de-emphasizing real prejudice that they face.

    “You want to fall for the okey-doke, that’s fine. But the numbers were laid out by Arturo & Yvette. You want to demonize *all* blacks as being out of touch with the civil rights struggles of others, fine.”

    I did not demonize all blacks and the passage you quoted doesn’t show that. I think statistically, there has to be an overlap between the black Obama supporters celebrating the milestone of his victory and those who voted “Yes” on 8, let alone those around the country who voted on similar ballot measures. I said it was ironic, I didn’t imply anything about “all blacks” and that’s not how I feel.

    Mormons from around the country funded the “Yes” campaign and Obama/Biden used their national platform to echo the same arguments, including the one about how you can claim to not have a problem with gay people just because you’re taking their right to marriage away. The “No” campaign had a fraction of the money and so I think it’s understandable that they focused on undecideds because they couldn’t focus on everybody. I’ve been engaging with every street protester for “Yes” that I’ve come across, and like Andrea said, the religious thing always turns out to be a smokescreen for deep disgust. Like you’ve said, there’s a wall there, and maybe personal experience, like having a gay child will change those people’s minds. Appealing to them with the idea of fairness or the Bill of Rights doesn’t seem to work too often, but comparing their experience of having been marginalized sometimes does.

  40. Hot Tramp wrote:

    fundamental rights should never have been put up to a fucking popular vote in the first palce.

    Let’s hope the California Supreme Court agrees.

  41. Marge Twain wrote:

    Coco-You had a question about how informed people were? Where I live, in Southern CA, the protesters were on almost every street corner with “Yes on 8″ and “Protect Marriage” signs. Commercials from both sides were frequent on TV and the radio. Businesses had signs in the windows. It’s been a hot topic in the papers and on local news for months now. Registered voters received a thick election guide in the mail with info on each ballot measure: summary, financial impact, arguments for and against, with rebuttals for each from the opposing side.
    Prop 8 was listed on the ballot as “Eliminates right of same-sex couples to marry. Initiative Constitutional Amendment”

  42. Jess wrote:

    Saying “it ain’t our fault” seems to avoid a really, really important question of how to build bridges between communities, for the same reason saying “it’s all your fault” does, you see what I mean? I feel like people are approaching this in the wrong way entirely wen they say stuff like that.

    I broke down the math in a post earlier, assuming that black and latin voters were approximately their portion of voters on the prop 8 issue, and it still don’t look good.

    Yeah, more white voters could have come out against it. But the fact remains that no matter how you slice it, a majority of those two non-white groups voted for prop 8. White voters rejected it by a narrow majority. Even given the limitations of the data , you just can’t get around it no matter how you massage the math.

    Even a 60% yes vote on any proposition would be considered a really strong mandate. And that would still have put it over the top, all other things being equal.

    And if you look at the straight numbers prop 8 got some of its biggest margins in Alameda county — home to Oakland, for one. The same pattern comes up across the board (check out the CNN vote totals, they have it by county). Now, to be fair, there were big margins as well in relatively white counties in more conservative parts of the state, like in the area around the Sierras as you go east.

    I don’t think anyone is letting white people off the hook for homophobia, lord knows I don’t. But if a majority of a certain subset of the population says yes to X and a minority of another subset says no, then you have to assume there’s something going on here.

    Like, if a majority of white people voted for three strikes laws and a majority of black folks voted against I think you’d draw the conclusion that there was some difference of opinion here between the two. And you can bet nobody here would be saying “well, some black folks voted for three strikes too.”

    Now, what that means is a whole ‘nother discussion. I don’t think black citizens or latin@ people are irredeemable, and frankly it doesn’t surprise me in the slightest, any more than seeing a mostly white state like West Virginia vote the same way would. (I’d be pleasantly shocked if a prop 8 equivalent didn’t get 60%+ of the vote there).

    The next question is what now? And that’s where the outreach needs to happen, I think. A good friend of mine was working for the ACLU a while back, talking to people about this very issue, and nobody listened, partly because they thought, no way could this pass in California. The LGBT community and everyone who supports them underestimated the ability of the right to target Spanish language ads, for instance, or use the images of black pastors in their campaign. Hopefully nobody will get caught like that again.

  43. LaurynX wrote:

    fundamental rights should never have been put up to a fucking popular vote in the first palce.

    Let’s hope the California Supreme Court agrees.

    Why didn’t people realize that to begin with? You can’t leave civil liberities up to the popular vote.

  44. Asada wrote:

    @ Fran,

    what I cant understand is why you assume we are all children of a higher power? Why DO you believe that?

    I can agree with you that the use of the word homophobic is overused. And I seriously consider how much it hurts and how easy it is at the same time. For once, Its not okay to make gays the butt of jokes, but now Christians. And I can see why you would not say anything , as many n0n-religious people do, about your beliefs.

    Thanks for reading AND commenting this time. Voices like yours are needed.

  45. shoepins wrote:

    The gay community has a rainbow flag which is suppose to represent our diversity. But what is the public face of the gay community? A white face! Communities of color within the gay community are not represented by popular media. I think if more gay people of color were represented within the larger gay community, blacks, Asians, Latinos, would have a different perspective. They would see their brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, and maybe, be more sympathetic to our cause.

  46. Nadra wrote:

    Hey, Marge, the LA Times has an article out the other day with a headline that blamed blacks for Prop. 8 passing.

    http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2008/11/70-of-african-a.html

  47. Alikat wrote:

    I am an African American hetersexual female and regular churchgoer who resides in California and worked on our local “No on 8″ campaign by attending marches and rallies, and contributing to the cause financially. I was disappointed that there were not more African Americans; you could count us on one hand. I would like to answer Arturo’s questions in Post #34:

    My church confronts prejudicial attitudes directly – through our stated beliefs, from the pulpit (our pastor and lay leaders), through our religious education efforts to children and adults, and through our various church-related activities. At last Sunday’s church service, our pastor told us to vote however we wanted on Prop 8, but to remember that, as members of a reconciling congregation of the United Methodist Church, ALL are welcome and NONE are discriminated against in our church. He made it clear that he was going to vote No on Prop 8.

    My church is made up predominantly of highly educated, middle class people, most of whom are white and senior, although we have a smattering of young families. Our pastor is a middle-aged white man.

    Issues of race/creed and sexual orientation are not handled differently in my church.

    I don’t know whether the local churches who were against Prop 8 communicated with one another. I saw no evidence of that. No doubt it would have helped the cause for more religious leaders who were against Prop 8 to have spoken up about their views.

    Obviously I was not at odds with my church about Prop 8. In fact, when I was choosing a church community two years ago, I chose this one specifically because it was welcoming to gays. At the other church I had been considering, which was predominantly black, the pastor seemed to find a way to denigrate the “gay lifestyle” in every sermon, no matter the topic. That was a deal-breaker for me.

  48. RoslynHolcomb wrote:

    This morning on The View Sherry Shepherd said that if Prop 8 wasn’t passed pastors could be arrested for preaching against homosexuality. I’m not in CA, but I assume that this is not true, but if this is the type of propaganda the Pro 8 folks were talking I can understand why black people vote for it. The black church is at the core of our community. It was literally at the core of our liberation. Anything that maligns it, and especially anything that attacks a minister will be met with firm resistance.

    The No 8 side either didn’t do outreach, or didn’t do enough outreach to counteract this message. And for the love of all things chocolate, stop comparing your struggle to ours. It annoys the ever loving crap out of many black people. For many people it’s as though you’re trying to ‘Elvis’ our civil rights movement.

    I’m sure there are some black churches who opposed Prop 8. I know Coretta Scott King was in favor of gay marriage. Were there any pamphlets or flyers with her comments on it?

  49. brownstocking wrote:

    @ 34 Arturo:
    Arturo wrote:

    Since we’re hearing from people who regularly attend church here, I have some questions:

    What do you or your church do when it comes to confronting prejudicial attitudes?

    Are they handled differently when it comes to race or creed as opposed to sexual orientation?

    Do your local churches communicate with one another on these matters?

    And, if you and your church were at odds on the Prop. 8 issue (or Prop. 2, if you’re in Florida), how did you address that?

    I face this regularly, because I live in a “progressive” town, with several out members and several “closeted” members of our church. Our church doesn’t communicate with other churches on this; we’re definitely in Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell mode. One out member was asked to step down from his leadership positions by our pastor. He said he would simply not go up for reelection. I think many of us are progressive when it comes to queer issues, but we’re definitely (except for a handful of us) below the radar in general.

    General comment: What irritates me about this is that Black gay people (self-identified) were vilified and called niggers (among other slurs) by white protesters at one of the marches in Southern California: http://rodonline.typepad.com/rodonline/2008/11/n-word-and-raci.html . But a (self-identified) Black lesbian pointed out that GLBT groups hadn’t entered her “hood” until the week before. So what kind of outreach was really done? There was a great letter forwarded to me from a queer activist who pointed out that we have to build coalitions, not focus on single issues. With these reactions being shown publicly, we see that “allies” have a lot of work to do on themselves.

    Oh, and Madonna: African Americans aren’t “equal,” because the country elected its first African American president.

  50. Rachel wrote:

    For what it’s worth, I just got a message from the No on 8 campaign. Apparently, they have heard the grumbling and the blaming and have said, “That’s not the way to build a coalition.” I’d be happier if the message were more solution-focused, but I’m glad they’re responding:

    “This has been an incredibly difficult week for Californians who are disappointed in the passage of Proposition 8, which takes away the right to marry for same-sex couples in our state. We feel a profound sense of disappointment in this defeat, but know that in order to move forward we must continue to stand together as one community in order to secure full equality in California.

    In working to defeat Prop 8, a profound coalition banded together to fight for equality. Faith leaders, labor, teachers, civil rights leaders and communities of color, Republicans, Democrats, and Independents, public officials, local school boards and city councils, parents, corporate law firms and bar associations, businesses, and people from all walks of life joined together to stand up against discrimination. We must build on this coalition in order to achieve equal rights for all Californians.

    We achieve nothing if we isolate the people who did not stand with us in this fight. We only further divide our state if we attempt to blame people of faith, African American voters, rural communities and others for this loss. We know people of all faiths, races and backgrounds stand with us in our fight to end discrimination, and will continue to do so. Now more than ever it is critical that we work together and respect our differences that make us a diverse and unique society. Only with that understanding will we achieve justice and equality for all.”

  51. Winn wrote:

    @ Marge Twain,

    “Latoya, Dan Savage, as reported yesterday, and the many articles and blog posts I’ve been reading these past few days since the election, have not said that black people(or PoC, in Thea’s words or communities of color like you said) were solely responsible for the passage of Prop 8. Some folks have been spinning it that way and it’s very easy to rebut. That’s a straw-man argument, is it not?”

    In your OP, you said this: “Some people think it’s ironic that AAs would be dancing in the street, singing “we have overcome” the same night that an overwhelming percentage of them voted to take away civil rights from another group.”

    You also said this: “Meanwhile, someone like Dan Savage who’s raising a child with his long-time partner just got a slap in the face by the voters of CA and FL and AZ and AR and those same people are crying with joy about how far they’ve come.”

    I don’t see any distinctions in your comments about the fact that we are talking about the number of eligible and registered African American voters in these states who actually voted on the propositions in question, and the fact that all this is based upon an poorly validated exit poll using an aggregrate sample, which reflected the self-report of only 240 African Americans. All the numbers are not yet in, so we have no real idea of the percentage of African American affirmative votes on Prop 8, and won’t unless someone can factor in early voters and absentee voters, racial demographic data not captured in any exit poll. As somone posted in the original thread, please read the following for an indepth breakdown of the inaccuracies and false extrapolations coming from this poll data, which you have furthered here:

    http://www.dailykos.com/story/2008/11/7/34645/1235/704/656272

    If you want to fault the Obama/Biden ticket for their failure to support marriage rights or their affiliations, then do so. But you’re playing semantic games when you suggest (implicitly if not explicitly) that we are misconstruing the implication of your words, Dan Savage’s, many commenters to his column, and posts and comment threads on other gay blogs like The Mad Priest and The Advocate, as well as on blogs like Huffington Post and Daily Kos.

    I think it’s interesting that you pointed out that No on Prop 8 was underfunded and logically focused on undecideds. When the California Supreme Court made its initial ruling, a representative of an anti-marriage group appeared on the now defunct NPR program Justice Talking to say that his group was already building coalitions with other organizations to mount the push for a ballot initiative to ban same-sex marriage. That day, within minutes of the ruling! The Prop 8 proponents have been preparing for years, and made serious outreach across ecumenical lines into ethnic faith communities. They were better prepared from jump. Not to mention, there were tremendous assumptions made about how minorities would view this as a civil rights issue, when many see it as a religious and moral issue. Opportunities for outreach and education were missed, and that started long before Obama even won the nomination.

    I say none of this to dismiss the homophobia and bigotry toward the GLBTQ communities in communities of color in general, and African American communities in particular. But the seed of prejudice is in making sweeping assumptions about a group of people based on the actions or opinions of a small sample of that group. You demonstrated your willingness to do that in your example about burning widows and saying that you wouldn’t ask to have those approval stats broken down or explained. You do both groups, widows and Indians in general, a disservice by refusing to look at a broader picture that might better explain the results, prevent you from succumbing to prejudice toward one group while trying to avoid deemphasizing it for another, and ultimately finding strategies to improve the situation and build coalitions between them. There is a fundamental misunderstanding and disrespect in that stance, and that attitude, along with assumptions born of privilege, is what kept the predominantly white mainstream gay movement from making the kinds of inroads it needed to into communities of color.

    Stonewall was in 1969 (led primarily by black and Latino queens I might add). Less than 40 years on, we are struggling to enshrine equal marriage rights into law. This is a relatively young movement that has gained traction significantly faster than either the Civil Rights or women’s liberation movements. And during that time, the faces and concerns of the movements have primarily been presented as white, affluent and male. No one should support bigotry or inquality, especially members of marginalized groups. But to act as if there is no need for outreach, that commonalities between the two groups should be easily recognized by everyone, that gays supported Obama without reservation but blacks didn’t return the favor (where is the statistical breakdown on that, by the way? I’d love to see the stats on what is always reported on the blogs as “overwhelming” gay support for Obama; given the reports from queers of color on their experiences within many gay communities, I need some substantiation of that), and especially, the normative line of demarcation drawn between “blacks” and “gays” as if never the twain (no pun intended) shall meet is pretty offensive. No straw men or facetious arguments here. Just responding to what we’re been presented with.

    Here’s a very prescient post from blogger Alex Blaze posted before election day, that both predicts the blame game and lets the wind out of its sails. If only more people had paid attention:

    http://www.bilerico.com/2008/10/dont_blame_latinos_and_blacks_if_prop_8.php

  52. TJ Hinnen wrote:

    i’m korean, 36 years old and i have a gay white mom who is married…

    i admit, while i would never vote yes in supporting gay marriages, i also wouldnt vote no, they cant marry either. i mean, while i may not agree with gay marriages… its not as if gay ppl who marry pose some type of threat to me…

    if i was a california resident and i had to vote on this prop 8 thing… i would have not voted at all…

    ppl have the right to have their own personal views… but despite my views on gay marriages, i just dont think such an issue should be made into a poll in the first place to have ppl decide whether its right or wrong… or whether they agree with it or not…

    i dont actually blame the voters for the results… in my mind, ppl have the right to exercise their point of view and what they believe in… i mean, thats the nature of a poll to begin with…

    SO, i guess in my mind, the ppl i hold accountable is the person or group of ppl who were responsible in creating such a poll to be on the ballot in the first place… cuz i feel a poll like this shouldnt have existed in the first place…

  53. Ron wrote:

    I am suprised about the lack of knowledge people have about blacks in the US.

    In the black community there has always been gays who have been tolerated. White gay people sought refuge among blacks before they were embraced by white society.

    The black community has really never been as violent against gays as the white community.

    The black community happens also to be more religiously, ethinically, linguistically, and genetically diverse than the white community.

    It is very difficult for non-whites to identify this diversity or heterogeneity, but it is there to see for those with the trained eye.

    So this accepted “truth” that the black community is more homophobic than other communities is fallacious.

    Again, the proper outreach may have made a big difference.

  54. Lyonside wrote:

    >That’s a straw-man argument, is it not?

    Check out some of the comments on threads from the last 2 days on pamshouseblend, for starters. Self-IDed white GLBT folk (and Terrance, who is black) have put almost all the onus on the black community (singular, despite our diversity) and the black religious groups, regardless of denomination. Pam herself and other posters/commentators (including me) gave tried to rebut that. And in response, someone wishes all black churches would burn.

    Divide and conquer, people.

  55. Kaonashi wrote:

    That’s absolutely disgusting. Yope, that will REALLY makes people want to go to bat for you. :/

  56. Asada wrote:

    @Ron,

    exactly. I found this after I found out Barney Frank is one of two openly gay congress members:

    http://www.keithboykin.com/author/bfrank.html

    This is congressman Barney Frank talking about the history of the Gay Movement and the Black Community. Its worth a read and details alot of history between both groups.

    I hate the hit the black communities are taking over this issue!

    The past never disappears, but it gets misguided on it way…

  57. brownstocking wrote:

    Serious question: with how this is going down, how can we be allies to people who want our churches to burn, who will “never support affirmative action again,” who vilify brown people?

    I need help with this one. I wanted to protest with others tonight, but I was concerned that I’d be faced with virulent racism and end up in a fight, attacked or arrested. And that’s not a good look for someone who wants to be an ally.

  58. Alienation wrote:

    @ Marge Twain.

    “Some people think it’s ironic that AAs would be dancing in the street, singing “we have overcome” the same night that an overwhelming percentage of them voted to take away civil rights from another group.”

    If you travel to your nearest bookstore and pick up a copy of a book that has to do with black homophobia or black sexism and its roots, perhaps your question of “irony” would suddenly subside. For one, black sexuality has been demonized, and therefore black people have had to prove heteronormalcy. Secondly, black masculinity which hurts black women through violence, misogyny black glbt’s, etc., play a variety of factors in the community that encourages disdain for GLBT’s. Thirdly, many black people were forced through colonization to be religiously conservative. If you knew these things, you wouldn’t think this was “ironic”, but a symptom of what society does to pit people against each other. And yes, I do hold black homophobes and black sexists responsible for their behavior at all costs. But the difference is that I also know where it comes from.

    When I heard about proposition 8, I was angered and depressed. As a straight black female, I thought about how similar a right taken away is to the Jim Crow laws post radical-reconstruction. The lack of support for gay marriage among SOME blacks is also comparable to the countless feminists of all races who view women as equal to men, but suddenly support the notion of biological gender differences when it applies to trans-rights. Or the immigrants who look down on black Americans despite their (and our) mutual oppression. Indeed, oppressed groups don’t necessarily identify with each other. It’s a hurtful and tragic reality. I voted for the candidate that was in favor of gay marriage this election, that person was Cynthia McKinney.

    Sadly, when whites paint blacks with this unified monolithic brush, having an honest discourse about where homophobia and sexism comes from in the black community often is forced into a backseat issue. I don’t like being put in that position, but the obvious and unnerving racism from privileged whites gay or straight forces me to allign myself with people I don’t necessarily agree with simply to combat ridiculous stereotypes and misconceptions. Not because I identify as black before feminist, or black before GLBT ally, but because America forces me to choose this identity first. Now THAT is true irony…

  59. Darkrose wrote:

    I’d like to clear up something about that 70% figure. As Latoya mentions, it’s 70% of the black voters in the exit poll. As far as I’ve been able to tell, there is only one exit poll that’s being cited (the CNN one), which had a total of 2,240 people polled.

    So: 70% of 10% of 2,240 = 157 (rounding up).

    Based on what 157 people told pollsters in a single poll, the 2.6 million African Americans in California are being blamed for the passage of Prop 8.

    How does that make any sense?

  60. Darkrose wrote:

    @Logan,

    In the case of California, that single poll is not representative of the state’s voter demographics. Shanikka on Kos breaks it down in detail, but one of her key points is that almost all black Californians live in 9 of the state’s 58 counties.

    If you look at the map of who voted how, you’ll see a narrow strip of “No” votes along the coast, with the notable exception of Orange and Riverside Counties. But as soon as you start moving east, past Sacramento, you’re in conservative, mostly white farm and logging country. The map of Prop 8 votes overlays almost perfectly onto the map of Obama vs. McCain voters.

    All of which is to say that the exit poll’s 10% of black voters is significantly larger than the actual percentage of black *people* in the state, let alone black voters.

  61. Darkrose wrote:

    Why didn’t people realize that to begin with? You can’t leave civil liberities up to the popular vote.

    The short answer is that since Prop 13, Californians think everything can be decided by popular vote.

    In addition to Prop 8, there were 11 other statewide ballot measures this year. I actually sat down and read the descriptions in the election guide (which is huge). I’m not a lawyer, but I’m pretty legal geeky–and I couldn’t follow most of the propositions. I ended up voting based on the Democratic voter guide.

    On top of that, it’s easy to get something on the ballot. You’re allowed to use paid signature collectors, and there’s nothing to stop you from putting the same measure up over and over. Prop 4, which would insistute mandatory parental notification for teenagers seeking abortions, has now failed 3 times–and it’ll probably be back on the ballot in 2010.

    It’s entirely likely that many voters didn’t actually vote on 8. They may have felt like they didn’t know enough, or they may have just missed the fact that the ballot ran over two pages. Regardless, it’s clear that the ballot initiative system in CA is fundamentally broken.

  62. Rob Schmidt wrote:

    More articles on the subject:

    http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-gayblack8-2008nov08,0,1601616.story

    Gays, blacks divided on Proposition 8
    For many African Americans, it’s not a civil rights issue.

    For Trebor Healey, a 46-year-old gay man from Glendora, Tuesday’s election was bittersweet.

    He was thrilled that the nation elected its first African American president. But he was disappointed that black voters, traditionally among the most reliably liberal in the state, voted overwhelmingly to ban same-sex marriage.

    He understands that there are differences between the civil rights battles of blacks and gays: For one thing, he notes, gay people have a much easier time blending in. Still, he says, he thinks it’s sad that “people do not equate one civil rights struggle with another.”

    Many black voters didn’t see it that way.

    “I was born black. I can’t change that,” said Culver City resident Bilson Davis, 57, who voted for Proposition 8. “They weren’t born gay; they chose it,” he added, reflecting a commonly held belief that many researchers dispute.

  63. Rob Schmidt wrote:

    http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/commentary/la-oe-cannick8-2008nov08,0,3669070.story

    No-on-8’s white bias
    The right to marry does nothing to address the problems faced by both black gays and black straights.

    I am black. I am a political activist who cares deeply about social justice issues. I am a lesbian. This year, I canvassed the streets of South Los Angeles and Compton, knocking on doors, talking politics to passers-by and working as I never had before to ensure a large voter turnout among African Americans. But even I wasn’t inspired to encourage black people to vote against the proposition.

    Why? Because I don’t see why the right to marry should be a priority for me or other black people. Gay marriage? Please. At a time when blacks are still more likely than whites to be pulled over for no reason, more likely to be unemployed than whites, more likely to live at or below the poverty line, I was too busy trying to get black people registered to vote, period; I wasn’t about to focus my attention on what couldn’t help but feel like a secondary issue.

    The first problem with Proposition 8 was the issue of marriage itself. The white gay community never successfully communicated to blacks why it should matter to us above everything else — not just to me as a lesbian but to blacks generally. The way I see it, the white gay community is banging its head against the glass ceiling of a room called equality, believing that a breakthrough on marriage will bestow on it parity with heterosexuals. But the right to marry does nothing to address the problems faced by both black gays and black straights. Does someone who is homeless or suffering from HIV but has no healthcare, or newly out of prison and unemployed, really benefit from the right to marry someone of the same sex?

  64. Rob Schmidt wrote:

    http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-protest7-2008nov07,0,3827549.story

    Prop. 8 protesters target Mormon temple in Westwood

    More than a thousand gay-rights activists gathered Thursday afternoon outside the Mormon temple in Westwood to protest the role Mormons played in passing Proposition 8, which banned same-sex marriage in California.

    It was the latest in an escalating campaign directed against the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints for its role in marshaling millions of dollars in contributions from its members for the successful campaign to take away same-sex marriage rights.

  65. Quakerchica wrote:

    @Rob Schmidt
    “But the right to marry does nothing to address the problems faced by both black gays and black straights.”

    Actually, marriage does address most of the economic issues that black gays and black straights face. Many studies have proven that marriage can actually be economically beneficial, since married couples receive tax breaks, are charged less for insurance than singles, less legal aid is required for married couple since the government has established laws to protect spouses(legal aid tends to hurt couples financially i.e. divorce, inheritance taxes are higher for non-married couples) and are more likely to be insured due to the fact most companies allow spouses to be on insurance. If the couple has children, studies show the children raised in a two parent household have a greater advantage over those raised in a single household. Marriage has lots of advantages, which is why the Bush administration and many churches in the black community funded so many organizations to convince people to marry. There is a strong belief that marriage either aids in bringing people out of poverty or lessens the effects of poverty. Marriage can potentially gives stability, mental and physical health benefits, and legal benefits. To say that marriage doesn’t help black gays and straights is just simply not true. Marriage is important to society and that is why ALL members of the society need to be able to participate in marriage.

    Sorry for writing such a long post, but I want to know what everyone thinks about gay marriage and the 14th amendment section 1
    “Section 1. All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside. No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.”

    I believe that its actually illegal to discriminate against LBGT community due to section 1. I am a right on this or wrong? Just want to know if I’m the only one who thinks this is true.

  66. CS wrote:

    So, here are some things that I see.

    Fact: Black people make up a pretty small percentage of the vote in California.

    Analysis: It’s not like they voted for Prop 8 all by themselves. The black “population” is not at fault– individuals of any race who voted for 8 are at fault. Or, if any entire population is at fault, it is the population of California.

    Fact: 70% of blacks voted for Prop 8.

    Analysis: That’s a lot of people in this group who have made a homophobic choice. Probably for many of them it is influenced by (as has been mentioned above) sexuality-related issues that blacks uniquely face; they have a distinctive struggle of their own in terms of overcoming homophobia. This struggle is probably reflected in the statistic that says that a large percentage of them voted homophobically.

    Fact: A lot of people feel hurt by Prop 8.

    Analysis: A lot of those people want someone to blame. The only group at fault, though, is “homophobes”, and it’s hard to call that a demographic, so they’re going to try to blame any group that looks like it contributed to the problem. But whether that is blacks, Christians, or whoever, it’s always going to be in error to blame the group, because there’ll always be a lot of people in the group who are not at fault.

    Fact: A lot of people want to help homophobes learn tolerance.

    Analysis: Targeted outreach (not blame) to a group that looks like it might be largely comprised of people who need to be reached is a good idea. No matter who you outreach to, you’re going to get some people who need to hear your lesson, and some people for whom it’s preaching to the choir; it’s not that we assume this group is all homophobic or is to blame for anything, but rather that there are probably a lot of homophobes in the group who need to hear the message, because, after all, 70% of this group did a homophobic thing.

    We shouldn’t insult one minority in support of another, but we also do have facts in front of us that say that there is a trend, whatever that means. We shouldn’t jump to conclusions about each other because of that trend, especially divisive conclusions. But I also think it’s a mistake to pretend we aren’t seeing any trend, because what we are trying to do is confront reality and change it for the better. We need to face that this statistic happened, but not let that fact make us angry at people of another group. Instead we need to try to sympathise with those of the group who were also hurt by Prop 8, and see what we can do to address homophobia in all the places it exists (which is everywhere).

  67. Marge Twain wrote:

    @Winn
    I did not ever claim that black people are more to blame than any other group. Again, that’s not how I feel. You falsely claim that I am failing to distinguish between voters as polled and the black population. I said:

    “Why focus on the 70% of black voters as opposed to 61% of seniors or 49% of white voters who are in the majority of Californians?”

    I also acknowledged that white people are the majority of voters. I went on to opine about the specific hypocrisy of those black people who voted to put discrimination in the CA constitution while evoking their own civil rights struggle in celebrating Barack Obama’s victory. And I brought up the voters for discriminatory ballot measures in other states.

    As to absentee ballots, they tend to skew slightly conservative, with the inclusion of overseas military. As to exit polls, I haven’t read DailyKos since they became misogyny central, but I understand what the problems with exit polling are. I don’t think it’s so plausible that they’re off by 20 points, if that’s what you’re trying to prove. You said:

    “I say none of this to dismiss the homophobia and bigotry toward the GLBTQ communities in communities of color in general, and African American communities in particular.”

    Which is good, but it seems to contradict your earlier insistence that nothing can be concluded yet about who voted how. Frankly, even if only 50% of black voters voted for prop 8, while I would be happier about it, I would still hold those people to be responsible for their part in supporting bigotry.

    “If you want to fault the Obama/Biden ticket for their failure to support marriage rights or their affiliations, then do so. ”

    I did not want to (nor did I try to) fault Obama/Biden for their failure to support anything. I wrote:

    “Obama and Biden repeatedly spread the mistruth that civil unions and domestic partnerships are just as good as marriage. Obama has been emphatic on many occasions that he doesn’t think marriage is necessary for gay couples, but that it’s possible to support them[gay people] anyway, while denying them this right. He’s been campaigning with anti-gay minister Donnie McClurkin. He emphasized it as a religious, not a civil issue, saying “God is in the mix” Homophobic Californians could comfortably vote for either major party candidate for president.”

    Is that too ambiguous? Here: I blame them for using their national platform and position of leadership to actively spread the Yes on 8 campaign’s message.

    “You do both groups, widows and Indians in general, a disservice by refusing to look at a broader picture…and ultimately finding strategies to improve the situation and build coalitions between them. There is a fundamental misunderstanding and disrespect in that stance, and that attitude, along with assumptions born of privilege, is what kept the predominantly white mainstream gay movement from making the kinds of inroads it needed to into communities of color.”

    Wow, I didn’t say any of that. I’m sorry for not being clearer. My analogy was meant to illustrate my own willingness to own and confront issues in my own race community, because it’s not prejudicial when it’s real. When I said what I wouldn’t do in that situation I was referring to things said by a few folks here whose comments didn’t say anything about finding strategies or building coalitions. Other people are talking about how to build better coalitions and I agree with those people, in addition to arguing my own solution in another comment.

    Lastly, following a superfluous history lesson and a series of more rebuttals to more things I never said(straw man), you claim you want a statistical breakdown on gay support for Obama while you take anecdotal evidence in the other direction for granted. My anecdotal evidence suggests that both are true, but your one-way skepticism is telling of where your sympathies lie.

    I want to make it clear who I do blame for the passage of Prop 8. The Mormons may have funded the advertising and Obama and Biden encouraged the religious angle, but they couldn’t have done it without the voters. I blame every single person who voted for it and every person who didn’t vote against it. The “No on 8″ campaign is looking at their shortcomings and will hopefully do better next time, but they’re not the ones to blame. It is a heterosexual privilege that crosses racial lines that made some people say “It’s just a difference of opinion” knowing that nobody’s ever going to vote on our marriages. Nobody from either group did outreach in my white/asian neighborhood and I hope no good citizen changed their vote because they were waiting for it.

  68. Yvette wrote:

    This is an old article, but I think the points are relevant to this discussion:

    http://www.zimbio.com/Brown,+Black+and+Queer/articles/31/Is+Gay+Marriage+Anti+Black

  69. Marge Twain wrote:

    @Lyonside
    Thanks for pointing that out; that’s really terrible. I read a lot of blogs but not the comments. I’ve been reading at Pam’s House Blend for a while and I really like how she’s been handling this thing. What I’ve seen at the protests in my community and in the papers hasn’t reflected that(There is overwhelming anger at the Mormon Church) and it has been helpful for me to listen to you and others talk about what else is going on.

    @Alienation
    “Indeed, oppressed groups don’t necessarily identify with each other. It’s a hurtful and tragic reality. ”

    Indeed they don’t, but it sounds like we have common ground in our experiences with oppression leading us to see common cause with others. I hear you holding folks accountable while being able to discuss the cultural roots of black homophobia with understanding. You can do this much better than I can. Thanks for your long and thoughtful response.

    As Latoya pointed out, oppressed groups have long built upon the struggles of other groups. The (white, male) American Revolution precipitated numerous slave revolts for the same reason. As Thomas Paine stood against those in his own group who wanted “inalienable rights” only for themselves, I want straight people to not be blind to how we have oppressed others.

  70. Marge Twain wrote:

    Pizza Diavola on another prevalent meme: laying the blame on the victims of this legislation:

    http://pizzadiavola.wordpress.com/2008/11/07/blaming-the-victims/

  71. Logan wrote:

    Quakerchica: A layman’s legal perspective/advice from a straight white guy, but I wouldn’t bring this up (or any “definition of marriage” acts) to the Supreme Court. Realistically, I’d say there is a good chance that the Supreme Court would be able to overturn Gay Marriage bans and legalize it throughout the United States. However, the moment that happens (and consequently its no longer a states rights issue), the clamouring for a national amendment to preserve the right and sancity of marriage will become the big political issue, and I wouldn’t be shocked to see it wrote into the constitution within a year that marriage is defined as between a man and a woman, and the abolishment of all existing marriages that don’t fit this requirement.

    Long-term currently, with shifts in demographics and a more “liberal” movement, I could see some states eventually allowing civil unions and/or gay marriages over time. Honestly,, I doubt it’ll be over half of the states within the next 50 years, but it is possible. However, if theoretically an amendment banning gay marriage were to be passed, I’d have my doubts that enough of the country will ever come about so that the 3/4 majority of states required to ratify or change an amendment (which I’m confident would support a “Sanctity of Marriage” Amendment right now).

    Obviously the opinions of others will vary on all of these points, and these are just my own thoughts, but I do think that a challenge in the US Supreme Court will do much more longterm harm than good.

  72. Winn wrote:

    @ Marge Twain,

    You and I obviously will have to agree to disagree. You suggest my comments make it evident where my sympathies lie. I’m assuming that was meant as a thinly-veiled attack, but I take no offense, as I know exactly who I am, what I believe in, and I am aware that the fault here lies with a myriad of parties. I think it’s hilarious that you invoke heterosexual privilege yet discount the role white privilege may have played in the failures of No on 8 to engage not only those who eventually voted to affirm the proposition, but queers of color who have long felt marginalized by the mainstream white gay community and who could have been valuable allies in the fight to defeat Prop 8. I think that suggests where your sympathies lie.

    However you choose to parse it, more than one commenter, including Latoya, Lyonside, Alienation, and myself, interpreted your statements in your OP as blaming the black community, and then claiming that neither you, Dan Savage, nor anyone else had done so. I and others rebutted that with examples as well as your own words. If you want to deny that, then fine. I am quite confident in my reading comprehension skills, so perhaps some nuance you intended was not evident in your word choice. Your comment about focusing on voters as polled failed to address the caveats in that calculation I mentioned, and you repeated the 70% number in your rebuttal to me, as if it is self-evident. Whatever. I’ll not beat my head against against a brick wall about that issue; the link I provided rebuts it more exhaustively than I ever could. Most importantly, your reference to my “superfluous history lesson” reveals a great deal about the sentiment that probably helped doom the No on 8 campaign. Namesly, disrespect and disengagement from the very real differences communities of color may have with the gay rights movement, even beyond issues of religiousity. The insistence on framing marriage as a civil rights issue when many in the African American community may not view it as such and do not see its relevance to their own lives, communities, and families; racism within the mainstream gay rights movement, and failure to see faces that look like their brothers, sisters, sons, and daughters reflected in the public face of the marriage rights movement, is a substantial part of the reason Yes on Prop 8 was able to gain such valuable inroads into ethnic communities. The relative youth of this movement and the quick strides it has made relative to the civil rights movement is not superfluous to the very communities that need to be engaged as allies in the fight, and that continued obtuseness on the part of mainstream gay rights and equal marriage rights organizations and supporters illustrates why they were asleep at the wheel when their better funded and organized opponents were not.

    And I’m so glad your white/Asian community is so magnanimous and enlightened that they needed no outreach, but perhaps the comparison between two very different communities with different histories regarding oppression, sexuality, and the intersection of the two in the US is suggestive of the problem. When you make assumptions about a group, and assume there is no need to engage and forge alliances with that group because they should see things the way you do, you are setting yourself up for disappointment, and arrogance has never been a particularly successful way to garner support for a cause. You can assign blame wherever you like, but it gets no one any further toward the stated goal. The groups who bankrolled and supported the Yes on Prop 8 campaign have figured this out. It will be to the continued detriment of gay marriage proponents if they do not. And trust me, blaming the black community, pitting racism and homphobia against each other and saying one trumps the other (as Dan Savage clearly did, and others have followed suit), spitting on, attacking, and yelling “nigger” at black gays and lesbians allied to protest the passage of Prop 8, and other such calls to action that have emerged in the wake of this blame-game, will only serve to entrench attitudes, lessen avenues for coalition-building, and make life even more dangerous for queers of color. Oh, let me make clear, I’m not claiming “you” have called for any of those things. Don’t want to be accused of bringing up things you never said. But I have no doubt others than can see the correlation between those outcomes and your comments, even if you cannot, or refuse to.

  73. Winn wrote:

    Interestingly, that post by Pizza Diavola also calls out those playing racial target practice on this issue, and points out how this renders invisible and voiceless GLBTQs of color, as well as absolving whites of homophobia. This comment by a reader to that post makes my point succinctly:

    **** Says:
    2008 November 7 at 7:59 pm
    “I have already been taunted for standing up for gay rights as a POC given the recent backlash against blacks. What these organizers don’t realize that by continuing on they are making it less likely for those allies who identify with their struggle to continue to advocate on their behalf. It is the black ally that they really need right now to reach out the community and transmit the message of equality the GLBT community never did. They didn’t approach the black churches which were heavily targeted by the Mormons, they didn’t approach community centers, they simply assumed they could count on a vote. With each new post I read regarding the blatant racism I get angrier and angrier.”

  74. Kaonashi wrote:

    I’m struggling with the same thing. I’ve been asked why do I care so much when it’s not my community, why I want to help people that have absolutely no respect for me, etc. There’s a rally this weekend and I’m having second thoughts on attending because things I ‘ve never considered in the past (Would I even be welcomed? Will I be safe?) are there now. :(

    People saying that they are upset, angry confused and disappointed I can deal with. People saying that they didn’t realize how much homophobia was in minority communities I can deal with too. But every time I see the horrible racist crap being posted, every time I get into an argument with someone over this, every time I read about people of color being attacked at these rallies it makes ME more and more angry and hateful.

    If the entire Black community is being painted as evil homophobic haters, then White Gay Males are being painted as vicious, racist, spiteful people.

    The losers here? The people in the gay community who haven’t drank the Kool-aid, the ones who have but are interested in building bridges rather than pointing fingers, and our GLBTs of color. They need us, more than ever because it’s obvious that a whole portion of their community could give two shits about them. And ultimately, not helping would be going against MY personal belief system.

  75. Sydney wrote:

    I’d have never thunk it.
    Blacks siding with MORONS or was it MORMONS???
    It better not be siding with Mormons because I remember growing up in D.C. and going to Catholic school during a religion class I learned that Blacks weren’t allowed to join the Mormon Church. These racist rats overturned their membership in 1978 for whatever reason. Maybe their magic underwear and crystal ball foretold of Prop 8. Personally, I never forgave the bigots.

    The week beginning 3Nov2008 started off so wonderfully with Lewis Hamilton being crowned the first Black Formula 1 racing champion and then Obama becoming the first Black US president. But suddenly this Proposition 8 BS pops up.
    One-step forward. Two steps back.

    But the whiners cry “It’s not right by my church”.
    What church?
    Is this the same church where your choir director is gay (don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about, I’ve visited several Black Baptist churches throughout the country).
    Is this the same Catholic church that…do I really even have to go into that mess?
    Or is it that many Black Mormons now.

    Maybe it’s that Blacks in California do not know American history.
    Here’s a quick refresher course:
    During slavery, slaves were not allowed to marry.
    Interracial marriage was a felony offense until 1967.

    Oh the shame you should feel. You call yourself Christians, but you DO NOT live by “the golden rule” (do unto others as you would have others do unto you).

    Oh the shame that I do feel being a straight, Black male in America.

    I hope that in this case Blacks sided with MORONS. That would be almost forgivable.
    But if you geniuses sided with MORMONS may God have mercy on your lifeless, bigoted souls.
    A racist is a racist is a racist.

    P.S.

    Whatever happened to separation of Church and State?
    Mormon’s tax-exempt status should be revoked for sticking their nose in this.

  76. Rose wrote:

    The exit polls are wrong and it’s intentional.
    Keep everyone busy fighting with each other so they can’t organize a cohesive movement for social change.

    Homophobes and racists will keep laughing at us and hating us while we all keep blaming each other. Homophobia is everyone’s problem and it’s in every community.

    By blaming people of color for prop 8 you negate all the long hours and hard work that me and other people of color put into No on 8 efforts. LGBT people of color do exist so stop placing blame on people’s skin color.

    Support each other and take care of yourselves. Turn your anger into action. This movement has been going for a long time now and this is a major milestone. Be a part of history in a way that you’ll want to remember.

    NO TO HOMOPHOBIA – NO TO RACISM UNITE AND STAND UP FOR FREEDOM!!

  77. barbara wrote:

    Blame it on blacks, huh? That is ridiculous. How many people voted on this measure at all?
    You vote your ideals, if I feel that marriage is defined as between a man and woman what right do you have to call me a homophobe? If you feel that marriage is defined as between two people that love each other regardless of their gender what right do I have to down you?
    By playing the blame game you are defeating your own purpose. Stop crying about it, work harder, campaign harder next time. Women and blacks didn’t get the right to vote the first time they tried so what makes you think that same sex couples will get the right to marry handed to them on a silver platter. That is why civil rights and equal rights are called struggles! As for me, I think marriage should be between a man and a woman, I am not a bigot or homophobe, but that is my opinion and I do not deserve to be insulted for it.

  78. barbara wrote:

    Furthermore, when we as African-Americans blame something on white people, circumstance, or society we are accused of looking for a scapegoat or an exuse, but it’s supposed to be ok for homosexuals to blame a WHOLE PROPOSITION on minorities. The operative word being minorities. Illogical.

  79. Cara wrote:

    Instead of blaming particular races within the American Society ( which is in some way demonstrating, that even having a bi-racial president won’t stop the racism and petty bickering and blame games), How about realising that lazy or ignorant people can’t be bothered using their brain and actually voting. With such a large amount of people not voting either way for an anti affirmative action initiative, that large percentage are just as responsible for TAKING THESE RIGHTS AWAY, as those who voted for prop 8. The rest of the world look at the U.S. and wonder how do these people let these things keep happening, Its yet another violation of a civil right and another restriction in an already divided society.

    Goodluck for the future, may you all keep your eyes and your ears open.

  80. halle wrote:

    I am black. Thirty. Grew up poor make a middle class salary now but because of the loss of my home in the foreclosure crisis. I literally live on forty dollars a week paying off debt. My sister is critically ill. My mother is a teacher losing her home. My family migrated from Texas during the war years and worked to try to build something in a very racist time. I am Christian. I attend church regularly. I am not a hate monger. My boss is gay and he is one of the best bosses I ever had. I say that not to say my best friend is gay comment but to let you know I ain’t from kansas or toledo. I live in the bay area. Grew up in diverse schools. My chuch is a black church. In fact it is African Methodist Episcopal. Our pastors are itinerate. Which means they don’t stay for life like Baptist. If you don’t like the pastor it is unlikely he will be there more than six years. Our church focuses on social issues like hiv civil rights and health. A few years ago when my pastor invited a gay minister to the church there were some people who were upset. Yet we have a gay choir director that all the women in church are in love with including two of my friends. If you never talked to me you would never know me. I am not a statistic or a symbol. I do have best friends who are gay. i’ve worked in politics for progressive officeholders. And yet i struggled with prop 8. It is in fact for me no different than abortion. Although religiously i don’t believe God approves of abortion it is between that person the state and God whomever they believe in to choose. The bible is clear on many things including homosexuality. I think personally christians have lost any moral high ground on judging people since we have selective amnesia on which parts of the bible to follow. I mean when is the church going to deal with fornication and adultry? That said my belief in God not the church led me not to vote for 8. I left it blank. I would not take the right of someone away to make a choice. But i could not vote for something that I am unsure of with God. The day after the vote black people were called every name and generalization in the book. But we still went to church to celebrate a victory of 400 years of prayers finally answered. My question to those who blame us is why didn’t you bother to talk to people like me?