A Shot at Love – Second Recap

by Racialicious special correspondent Latoya Peterson

Show Number Two! I grabbed my now addicted boyfriend and settled in to see what happened in this episode…

After the dramatic reveal, the lesbians feel betrayed and the men are apprehensive. Men make more comments about the women’s general hotness and the women act uncomfortable. There is some discussion of forming an alliance.

Three of the men start to fight. While the crew members break it up, the lesbians loudly proclaim their anti-violence stance. [Because, obviously, women are peaceful and loving when compared to the barbaric warriors with penises.] During the fight, Rebecca swoops in for the kill, comforting a flustered Tila who expresses surprise at all the drama surrounding her “Surprise, I’m bi!” speech.

[Captain Obvious asks: Why were we not prepared to have drama after coming out in a surprise twist on a televised reality show?]

While all the drama is going down, the hyphy-iest lesbian on the show decided she had enough. She expresses a revulsion men in general (and uses the word icky.) Apparently skeeved out by all the men joining the party, Lala left the show.

Interesting perspectives from Alex on homosexual women. He seems to be fairly rational about what is going on – I wonder how long that will last.

There was also a small attempt made at gender parity. Tila had the girls catwalk in the first episode…but had the men catwalk in heels during this episode. It was campy and cute, but once again presented as farce. Real men don’t walk in heels, silly viewers! Domencio – who had a fabulous comment around homophobia in episode one – also seems to be the most adept at walking in high heels. This was noted by Tila, and not in a good way…

Marcus proceeds to show his inner asshole by smacking a girl on the ass during the post catwalk festivities, creating yet another rift between men and women. What I found most interesting about that situation is that it appears that the two groups are locking ranks. The girls will gang up to get Marcus out…and the men, for their part, did not speak up when Marcus began denying his actions. (Some may have said so privately, off camera…but we cannot know for sure.)

After a quick roll in the foam to get some coveted one on one time with Tila, the winners go upstairs. The amount of sexuality on this show interests me as there are a great many people who look like they are exploring aspects of their personality and sexuality through the show. Eddie is one of them. His responses and reactions the hypersexuality of others is interesting to watch, and the fact that he became physically uncomfortable with Tila’s aggressive displays of affection gave him a depth I did not expect.

It also points to another thing that is not seen often enough on reality television – people who are not solely defined by their sexuality. Eddie’s choice to stay true to his own internal morals cost him the competition – but what does that say about him as a person? All too often, our televisions serve us images of people who blatantly flaunt their sexuality – either on their own or with the help of alcohol. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable with your sexual self. However, this image of sexuality coupled with reckless abandon is not the norm for most adolescents and adults. Yet, this vodka-shot saturated sexuality is encouraged by producers, show executives, etc because it makes for more interesting television.

(After all, half of the reason we all watch reality tv is for the drama – and what else creates drama like drinking and sex among strangers?)

It was also nice to see Eddie buck a stereotype – the horny, oversexed man who literally jumps everything that moves. Too bad he got sent packing. Ah well, moving on!

Random WTF moment: Can the guy who sleeps on his Momma’s couch stop saying he sleeps on his momma’s couch?

At the key ceremony, Eddie is out first. Ouch, but he handled it well. Hey, MTV – can you give hottie virgin his own little special? Put him on Next or something…

Grace is gone…and I liked her! Stephanie is gone…ouch. Marcus is out – hooray! People are out for being rude.

Tila ends the episode with the soon-to-be-patented Tila ass shake. Why does she remind me of tweety bird?

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I think it is important to keep track of the reactions to the show. What are people saying? I am finding the comments to be a little more telling than the show…

From Tila’s blog:

I found this comment on Tila’s my space page, in response to someone who said they hated the show:

LOOK STUPID RETARDICAL BITCH STOP HATING ON TILAS SHOW BESIDES ITS HER TASTE NOT URS AND BESIDES SHE MADE GOOD CHOICES ESPECIALLY BY KICKING OUT THE GUY WITH THE TEA? UR JUST AN IDIOTIC WHITE BITCH THAT IS JEALOUSE AND STUCK WITH THE MOST RETARTED PICTURE A 31 YEAR OLD BITCH FROM Farragut, Tennessee CAN HAVE DUDE JUST KILL URSELF NOW AND DO US THE FAVOR SO WUT DO U SAY? U WANNA GET RUNNED OVER BY A TRAIN OR GET KNOCKED THE FUCK OUT BY A LOOSE HORSE?
TAKE CARE. NOT!

Retardical?

Can I use that word?

Also, please note “the retardical” chick spoken to above trashed Tila’s show…and also called her an Asian whore. How the hell does her race always come up in this mess? It is like “Asian” and “Whore” are permanently linked in popular consciousness…

Interesting show, it definetely has a twist. Although, if Ricky Martin had a similar SHOW … I WOULD NEVER WATCH THAT.

Posted by Vick on October 17, 2007 – Wednesday at 12:45 AM

I think the above quote kind of speaks for itself about what versions of homosexuality are considered acceptable…


From the MTV Blog:

crakmonkie: 10/10/2007 9:34 AM
it was cute crazie drama, you seem more sexually aggressive towards women

Hmm…good point. Why is that?

clairethelabcat: 10/10/2007 10:56 AM
what i like most about it is that the lines of finding love are blurred. it speaks more than just a two-dimensional quickie dating show. the nature of the show, the fact that you, t, face these people everyday, forces us to confront these stereotypes that society has on who should love who and how. im hoping that the more people watch the emotions that come from the connections made on show, they more they’ll understand that who and how isn’t as important as accepting that we can possibly love anyone.

Obviously, I am not the only person reading a lot into the purpose of this show. I would estimate about a fourth of the posts do reference the show being “groundbreaking,” that the poster is able to “able to relate because [I/we] are bi too,” that is was good to see “representation” on television.

missjijames: 10/10/2007 12:33 PM
your show is amazing. my friends and i are hooked. and I’M the one who doesn’t like reality shows anymore, lol. but your new show…holy shit, it looks intense and we can’t to see the next episode. you’re doing a great job, hun!

ps..for the sake of realism, i’m glad you have two butch lesbians on there. i thought i was going to be disappointed at first because producers don’t exactly air lesbians that don’t look like they just jumped off a porn movie. so it’s kind of giving your viewers a chance to see that not every lesbian looks like a model or the fact that we’re not just lesbians because it looks hot..

anyway, your show is off the hook, and like everyone else, we can’t wait to see the upcoming episodes!

Hmm…more lesbians/bi-sexuals finding value in this show.

Until next Tuesday, when it looks like the contestants play a risqué game of Spin the Bottle, and I will include a special add on of sex, race, the feminist sex wars, and Tila Tequila…